Nonoluna's Take On Life

Unapologetically Me

We are conditioned to see our lives, not in terms of what we want but rather what we don't want. I suppose that's because what we don't want is often powerful. Perhaps it's because that's what we know whereas we may never have experienced what we truly want.

Take the time to determine exactly what it is you want. It could be about anything. Your home, your partner, your children, your work, your body, your neighbours, your government...and the list goes on. Focus on your perfect vision of any of these things. When you see similarities in your own life or in the world generally, make that your primary thought. Imagine that it exists even if it doesn't. Dream it since dreams are the beginning of lives changing.

One of the 'vents' I read about most frequently here is about partners. From the sounds of things, many of you have chosen to share your life with someone that you have nothing in common with and have no respect for and vice versa. That can't possibly be true. If it is, then please, remedy the situation quickly since this can't be a happy situation for anyone. Instead of sharing your frustrations about your spouse, for one week no matter how much they agitate you, please share all of the positive aspects of this person. Focus on their positives and how they make your life better. They must have some good traits!

This goes for anything. Instead of bashing the politicians that you truly dislike, constantly proclaim the ones that you support. If you don't feel well, think about all the ways that your body is great and visualize yourself as whole and healthy.

It all comes down to deciding what you want more of in this world. See the world in terms of its positive possibilities and they will become a reality.


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Feb. 1, 2008 at 7:20 PM Agreed! Positive thinking does wonders!

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Feb. 1, 2008 at 7:44 PM

ya know, it was only recently i started to think this line of thinking was ok.  i think i have always been taught to be happy for what you have, everything you have already is too much, there are people starvig and how could i possibly have the nerve to hope for a dvd player?  or mp3, kwim? 

part of it is knwing scripture speaks to me... the rich will not enter the kingdom of God. 

but at the same time i want to enjoy my life and make use of all the resources i have been given.

the only way i can make these two parts f me agree is to think of you thoughts in terms of "non-objects", like hoping for love, enlightenment, precious time, etc.....

does that make sense?

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Feb. 1, 2008 at 10:50 PM Yet another post that confirms why you are my friend!  I was trying to think when I found you on here and gosh...I can't remember!  But I do know this...I sure am happy that I did!  Your outlook on life is amazing!  I admire it so much! 

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Feb. 2, 2008 at 1:14 AM I am so blessed that I am surrounded by people like you!

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Feb. 2, 2008 at 8:17 AM You are so write. I was raised to think it could be worse and that I have lived though worse. I think some are to quick to blame loved ones.

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Feb. 2, 2008 at 6:49 PM

That's funny that you brought up the example of many ladies ranting, upset, or bashing thier husbands... I can see how it get's alot of attention and support which can be a positve way of support when the chips are down....I always reccommend council.

Some mom's report the bad drama that goes across the board - everything is rarely their fault and they take no action or blame in fixing it.... they probably report that trash often - not just the boyfriend, husband, babies daddy...etc.

 I strongly agree that it's great to talk about the good things are spouse's provide or the nice things they do for us.... I have few of those postings in my profile ( guilty, but, zero negative posts about him!) Recently I left my CafeMom Profile up and he was checking it out.... a sort of embarrasing thing...He liked the music thing and wanted to get something like that... but not Myspace.... for older dad types! Then he went on to point out - that I have the kids pictures up and where was his? I explained that the moms post pictures of thier kids there... I suppose I could put your picture there? But I pointed out that my avatar picture has us all as a family.... That seemed to satisfy him.... Very funny thing comming from an extremely shy guy!

Anyhow, thanks for the great posting!

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Feb. 2, 2008 at 8:48 PM Great post!! I am working on that!

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