1. Communicate with him; never close him out.
___2. Regard him as important...and let him know he's important.
___3. Do everything you can to understand his feelings.
___4. Be interested in his friends...and occasionally give him time with them.
___5. Ask his opinion frequently.
___6. Value what he says.
___7. Let him feel your approval and affections.
___8. Protect his dignity on a daily basis.
___9. Be tender with him, realizing he has feelings also.
__10. Foster an atmosphere of laughter in your home... look for ways to laugh together.
__11. Avoid sudden major changes without discussion and giving him time to adjust.
__12. Date each other. And when you go out together on a date, don't bring up problems.
__13. Focus on what he's doing right, instead of focusing on the negatives.
__14. Be interested in what he feels is important in life.
__15. Correct him gently and in private.
__16. Allow him to teach you without putting up your defenses.
__17. Make special time available to him.
__18. Be trustworthy.
__19. Compliment him often.
__20. Be creative when you express your love, either in words or in actions.
__21. Have specific family goals for each year.
__22. Don't over commit yourself. Leave time for him.
__23. Be forgiving when he offends you.
__24. Show him you need him.
__25. Accept him the way he is; discover his uniqueness as special.
__26. Admit your mistakes; don't be afraid to be humble...peel away your pride.
__27. Defend him to others remembering that love protects...(1 Corinthians 13:7).
__28. Allow your husband to fail...& discuss what went wrong after comforting him.
__29. Rub his feet or neck after a hard day.
__30. Take time for the two of you to sit & talk calmly (schedule it when necessary).
__31. Go on romantic outings.
__32. Write him a letter occasionally, telling him how much you love him.
__33. Surprise him with a fun gift of some kind.
__34. Express how much you appreciate him.
__35. Tell him how proud you are of him.
__36. Give advice in a loving way when he asks for it.
__37. Help your husband to be the Spiritual Head of the household.
__38. Prefer him over others...make the choice to "choose him".
__39. Don't expect him to do projects beyond his capabilities. All men aren't experts.
__40. Pray for him to enjoy God's best in life.
__41. Take the time to notice what he has done for you and the family.
__42. Brag abouat him to other people behind his back.
__43. Share you thoughts & feelings with him.
__44. Tell him about your day, if he's interested.
__45. Take time to see how he spends his day.
__46. Give him time to unwind when he comes home from work...plus, time with the children.
__47. Get up with him, even when he has early morning meetings & pray together.
__48. Be his "help-mate" in whatever ways you sense he needs it.
__49. Let him retreat to his "cave" to recuperate whenever it's possible.
__50. Be a student of your husband's ways so you can love him, as he really needs you to.
__51. When your husband is in a bad mood...give him quiet time to recover.
__52. Help him to finish his goals- hobbies or education.
__53. Treat him as if God has stamped on his forehead: "Handle with Care".
__54. Get rid of habits that annoy him.
__55. Be kind & thoughtful to his relatives. Try not to make him choose between them and you.
__56. Don't compare his relatives with yours in a negative way.
__57. Thank him for things he's done around the house; it'll mean a lot to him.
__58. Don't expect credit for all you do for him & the household...do it as "unto the Lord".
__59. Make sure he understands everything important that you're planning to do.
__60. Do little things for him...an unexpected kiss, coffee in bed...etc.
__61. Don't belittle his intelligence or be cynical in your words to him.
__62. Realize that men rejuvenate themselves by focusing on things they can solve.
__63. Sometimes when he has a day off, let him enjoy it without having to "work" at home.
__64. Get to the point in your discussions with him. Spare him details he may not want.
__65. Discover his sexual needs.
__66. Ask if he wants to discuss how you can meet his sexual needs.
__67. Wink at him from across the room when you're out at a group function.
__68. Plan your future together.
__69. Don't quarrel over words.
__70. Practice common courtesies with your husband.
__71. When something goes wrong, don't assess blame, focus on how to do better.
__72. NEVER say, "I told you so."
__73. Don't argue over money. Peacefully discuss future expenditures.
__74. Take him out on dates now & then...pre-plan ahead of time.
__75. Hold his hand in public.
__76. Snuggle up close to him at times at home & in public.
__77. Tell him you love him often.
__78. Put love notes in his pockets and briefcase.
__79. Sit with him while he's watching television- even if the program doesn't interest you.
__80. Give him the benefit of the doubt & say what's on your mind. Men don't read minds.
__81. Give him time with his family alone from time to time.
__82. Always check with him before you throw away his "important" papers.
__83. Keep yourself in shape.
__84. Let him express himself freely, without fear of being called stupid or illogical.
__85. Carefully choose your words, especially when angry.__87. Visit his childhood home.
__88. When you're angry with him, express it or deal with it, NO silent treatment
__89. Pray for him.
__90. Make him homemade soup when he's sick.
__91. Look your bbest - dress to honor him & make him proud to be seen with you.
__92. Support him when a relative discredits him.
__93. Don't disagree with him in front of the children.
__94. Take him for a weekend get-away without the children.
__95. Do the "little things" he needs from time to time.
__96. Start the day by praying together before you both get up.
__97. Give him coupons to redeem- maybe for a back scratch or a shoulder rub.
__98. Buy him a gift certificate to his favorite lunch spot & put it in his wallet.
__99. Hide notes for him around the house where only he will find them.
__100. Thank him for just being himself.

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Feb. 1, 2008 at 8:35 PM okay, that's all fine and dandy, but where's the list they should follow for "Love your wife"? I don't see many of those floating around... because you know what? most of them couldn't check off 5 things on that list... pardon my negativity.. I'm kinda irritated right now. lol.

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