I posted a while ago on my local freecycle forum looking for a puppy for my kids cuz at that time I couldn't  afford to go adopt one. Then last nite I did something for me for the first time in a long time.. I treated myself to a perm.. Paid $60 AND THE LADY MESSED IT UP. So this morning I posted on the forum looking for help and/or advice on what to do.. Below is a message I received from someone.. The way she speaks to me made me feel like complete shit about myself.. I know it makes more financial sense for me to stay home, but in a way she is right, I am living off my hubby.. I don't know how to feel right now really.. Input ladies???


Ok, soo ya want a puppy right? But you dont have money to go and adopt one? Do I have that right, BUTTTT you have money to go spend 60 bucks on a perm, and then it goes wrong! OMG you spent money you supposedly didnt have, and it bit you in the ass!
You beg and beg and beg for things, and yet your husband is in Iraq, your getting hazard pay, you live on post, and yet you cant afford anything not only a .99 cent pick!
You are a self centered, selfish, LIAR!
Have fun with your hair, I hope you get laughed at! I'm sure your stuck up church buddys, and all the other "hot army wives" will have a hellva good laugh behind your back! I know I am!
Get off your ass, stop living off your husband and the poor sob story of his being in Iraq and get a job!


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Feb. 1, 2008 at 11:23 PM

Wow.  That woman obviously has a lot of hatred, for whatever reason.  Even if I didn't agree with someone's lifestyle, I would never send them a private message over the internet to yell at them and degrade them. 

btw, I think it's GREAT that you're staying home with your kids and dealing with the struggle for what's best for THEM.  We also struggle financially so I can be home with the children while they are young.  Kudos to you, and poopy on her! 

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Feb. 1, 2008 at 11:24 PM  wow!! crabby much?!  some people just have to be ugly to make them selves feel better.

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Feb. 1, 2008 at 11:25 PM Everyone has to treat themselves every now and then or life sucks lol I kinda agree about the kids and the dog, only cause in my house I do w o so much cause my kids come first no matter what. I have three shirts that are good to go out in and two pants and ya know it don't bother me in the least. It does my mom a lot but I am happy. My kids need things and they get them. OH trust me they are not spoiled with toys and etc that is not what I am saying about them needing things lol but that is my input sorry you asked so I am not judging you she was a rude as hell bitch though.

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Feb. 1, 2008 at 11:27 PM

Wow, how rude!  Do you know this person at all? 

What is it to her if you stay home vs. working.  That is a personal decision.  Maybe she envys you.?.

We all need to get out and do something nice for ourselves.  DOn't feel bad for doing that. 

Also, a puppy cost a hell of a lot more then a perm -

Good luck 

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Feb. 1, 2008 at 11:27 PM     i also have made the financial sacrafice to be home more. i started working for my kids school district making 1/3 what i use to so i would be with them all the time. we struggle but, my kids ahve me. pay no mind to her!! 

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Feb. 1, 2008 at 11:32 PM Big POOPY on her!! Its none of her G.D. buisness what kinda of money you have or the lack there of ! I'm a Military wife myself, stay at home mom, husband is in Iraq, oh dear lord thats makes me a parasite!!!! I firmly believe in " If mama ain't happy ain't nobody happy" you have to do something for yourself once in awhile, just being a woman you deserve it, let alone a stay at home mom going through a deployment.  You have to feel good about yourself or everyone around you is misrable. May I suggest umm say no to the puppy- love animals to pieces but they are a pain in the ass, messy, costly, and the kids get over them fast, and as much as they promise they won't walk them or water or feed them lol!

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Feb. 1, 2008 at 11:40 PM MY kids are 3 1/2, 2 1/2, and 6 months, so I know I have to take care of an animal myself, so we have already decided no on that. And we are still struggling to get ourselves out of debt and make ends meet so it is VERY VERY rare that I do anything for me..

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Feb. 1, 2008 at 11:43 PM unless she's NEVER done anything selfish in her time as a parent, she has NO room to talk.  Period. 

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Feb. 3, 2008 at 9:29 PM

WOW that was a crazy mean ass B. I dont think you were being selfish. Sometimes us wives need to do something for ourselves. Dont worry about that idiot that probably doesnt know what it feels like to be a army wife and a mom.

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Feb. 4, 2008 at 1:03 PM That is awful. No one has the right to speak to anyone like that. She needs to mind her own Beeswax!!!! Mean people make me mad. Sorry you were treated that way.

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