I can't sleep...I'm rewinding yesterday in my head beating myself up telling myself I gave in and didn't fight for my kids...

The other side of me says yes you did ...remember the things the mediator and attorney said to you...

That if I fought him in court I would be label as 'the vindictive ex wife who moved her kids away from the father' (even though I stayed within my boundaries) and b/c you are vindictive...father's have rights and they would have awarded more visitation by law AND dropped your child support BY LAW

They said it was better to take my chances mediating this so that I would have a say vs letting the judge have control.  

And let me tell you after seeing yesterday the courts SUCK...the law sucks....I DID NOTHING WRONG!

The other side of me says take your chances and fight....I have no money to fight him in court...it would cost of 10's of thousands of dollars...and the way my luck would run with our judge (who they have said is new and follows law and doesn't listen to sides) would rule for him.   I got screwed in my marriage..i got screwed with my attorney's in my divorce and I got screwed again yesterday....MY luck isn't good against that man!  

I walked in yesterday with nerves, but yet with such confidence....I had God on my side...who did he have?  Nobody...  He doesn't pray He doesn't seek forgiveness for his sins...Nor does he have Grace....but walks high...

I know God has a purpose, but please Lord don't make me wait 40+ years like your ppl did searching for the Promise Land.....I know You have a purpose for what happened yesterday, but I can't find it ...and I'm sad... 


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Feb. 2, 2008 at 8:06 AM You're absolutely right, you did NOTHING at all wrong. You stayed within your limits and it just seems as if your ex is being bitter towards the fact that you remarried? I could be way off here though. There's a chapter in Hebrew's (13:5-10  and 15-16 and 18) Just trust in God.

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Feb. 2, 2008 at 8:38 AM No, I think you are right...I wasn't sued until i remarried.   When i remarried I had to move from the house I was in and split the profit.  That was his decision in the divorce.  So we found a place that was perfect for the children and moved.  It was in the best interest of them.....but no one seems to see that.  the mediator said I was vindictive...i told her that after seeing their happiness I would do it all over again

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Feb. 2, 2008 at 12:48 PM

Is the court/mediator one that your husband has dealings with often?  Could the mediator be coming down on you harder because you are "against" or "the other side" of a friend of theirs??  Is that a possibility?

Some of the things that she said to you yesterday were none of the concern of the case at hand...at least I don't think.  About being a stay at home mom...what does that have to do with the case?  That should have been a good thing for the children, but looked down upon instead.  Why did she have to put her 2 cents worth in that she feels her childern were better off having a working mom?  That does not seem to me that she was very neutral in this case!!  That is unfair in itself. 

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Feb. 2, 2008 at 12:57 PM

No I agree nothing she said had to do with the case...half the time they were talking about her trip today...i was sitting there trying to talk upset that i was ignored...

my ex does work with in dallas county...this was tarrant county...2 diff courts and attorney's.

i made sure he didn't have business with her but come to find out she LOVES his attorney and said he is such a gentleman.  WTH (heck) 

about being a SAHM ...she was mentioning how her girls were from a broken home and she worked outside the home and they are better well adjusted for it....BITE ME

my daughter doesn't need to climb the corporate ladder ...her place is with her hubby and kids...in the home...

she gave her 2 cents b/c she is a feminist woman....what else do they have to do but slam us SAHM 

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Feb. 2, 2008 at 1:21 PM

And about the whole homeschool thing???  What was that all about?  Does that mean that you will not be able to homeschool them {if you want to} in fear of them being taken away??  Gosh...I just want to reach out and give you a huge hug!  It is just horrible how they treated you!

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Feb. 2, 2008 at 2:40 PM We just can't home school my kids with the ex...we can home school ours b/c we aren't psycho

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