My friend Kat encouraged us to write our own posts after reading and being inspired by her great post.  I always read her journal and sometimes have to leave an actual serious response (although most of the time I just bug her *lol* ---sorry *smiles*---)

Well I thought to myself, ya know what, I can write that, no problem!  But to tell you the truth, it wasnt as easy as I thought.

I questioned myself - I know I'm a GOOD mother, but a STRONG one?  I dont know... I think I'm more of a nervous mother! *lol*  But then I realized something.  What makes meh strong are the obstacles that I endure as a person and the challenges I face as a parent.  So maybe I take small victories and treat them like I conquered the world.  Maybe, my strength isnt the conventional strengths.

But, I know one thing, I KNOW I'M A STRONG MOTHER...

and here are the top ten reasons in no particular order:

I've learned to forgive myself for the millions of mistakes I have made, and that I'm going to make.  Knowing that I am my own worse critic means that in order to move forward I have to forgive and learn from my past and my mistakes.

I dont just follow trends.  I do my own research, I ask questions and I follow my heart to make the best choices for my son. 

I make long term goals, but celebrate small milestones.  I dont look so far into the future that I miss the greatness happening around meh.

I put Alex before all others on this earth.  I know I would die just to make sure he is safe.

I am humble.  I'm never afraid to tell someone, "I need help...."  I would rather risk looking foolish by asking a stupid question than risk something minor turn into something major because of my arrogance.

I am strong and do my best to be Alexanders voice, especially around people who want to question every thing that I do for him that I know is best. 

I refuse to let Alex live in a bubble.  I will protect him, but allow him to experience the world the way he chooses.  I will raise him to be an independent thinker, strong and responsible.  In order for meh to do this, I must surround him with strong, intelligent, responsible and independent people.  What a better example than his parents?

Alex knows who I am, he smiles when he sees meh and knows that what ever is wrong in his world, I will fix it.  In his own way, I feel like he is growing to know and trust meh as his mother. 

I refuse to let myself die.  As important as it is to be a mother, it is equally important to still be myself.  Keeping that balance is hard, but mentally important and vital to my existence.  Learning to put Alex before myself is hard, but learning to do that, incorporate him into my past life, and still hold onto what makes meh 'ME' is even harder, but in order to take care of him, I know I have to look our for meh.

I make sacrifices to make sure that my child will always be taken care of, physically, emotionally, spiritually and financially.  And I fight for those reasons and protect them, his future is dependant on what I do now.

So, those are my 10 reasons I know I am a strong mother.  And in writing this I was able to learn that what makes meh a strong mother is different from what makes anyone else a strong person, but to pull strength from others, to seek advice and to follow your heart takes courage and in that courage you find strength.


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Feb. 2, 2008 at 7:10 AM What a wonderful post - good for you.  Strong mothers unite!  Ha!

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Feb. 2, 2008 at 7:12 AM

WOW! very impressed! Loved your post! YOU R a  STRONG AND GREAT MOM!!

I am gonna have to think a bit for my 10 reasons......... again I know I am a good mom, Im not perfect, I make mistakes, but I learn from them. I know I am strong too........but why am I strong? Humm....... thanks you gave me something to think about...........:)

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Feb. 4, 2008 at 7:30 PM

i'm sorry i missed this harmony!  great job!!!

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