First let me say this is not about me! I still have my kids, but a family member does not. There is alot of things i didn't know until now and I need input.

My brother in law married a girl who had 2 older boys. The oldest boy has been dating a girl who has 3 kids from a previous marriage. They are ages 3,2, and 1.5. The oldest step nephew had a baby girl with a different gitrl last year and she lives there with them all.They seemed to be living fine in a trailer right next to my brother in law. I know they don't have alot of money, but still. They had a complaint called on them about the condition of the trailer.

When DHS came, they found that the door to the kids room had hook and eye hooks on the outside of the door. So, DHS told them to fix it and they would be back unexpectedly. WEll, 2 weeks went by and they showed up. They never did anything, so she lost all 3 of her kids. The little girl from my step nephew is loiving with my brother in law. The other kids are 4 hours away and she is blaming her ex husband for doing that.

I am very outraged about this because to me it seems like the kids were being treated like animals: locked in their rooms. Come on. They told my brother in law that they didn't want the kids touching the woodstove. We have had 3 boys with a woodstove and they never were locked in a room because of our fear of the woodstove. i feel like the state did the right thing. Besides that, they were labeled autisitc by their mother because she couldn't handle them and was trying to get them from being taken away. I have an Aspie and let me tell you, to just make up something like that to the state, is not cool. I believe she needs help.

My question is this: What do I do? Do I sit back and let things cool off? We were offered to take the baby for awhile, but I don't think I can due to the fact they know where we live and I don't want things to happen. Thanks for the input ladies.

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Feb. 2, 2008 at 7:54 AM Let DHS handle it...there may be more involved that you don't know about

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Feb. 2, 2008 at 7:57 AM I would leave well enough alone right now. As MSugar said there may be more going on than you know. I know it's hard but let them deal with it.

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Feb. 2, 2008 at 7:57 AM I believe there are 2 sides to every story, but if these parents were actually locking their kids in their rooms, then there is obviously something going on. You can offer to help by taking the baby, not sure it will do any good. I would ask if I could take all the kids so they won't be seperated. I also feel it is better for a family member to take them so they don't have to go into foster homes.

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Feb. 2, 2008 at 8:00 AM I don't think DHS would take the kids away just because of dor hooks.  I think there was more to the story than they are telling you.  I also agree let dhs handle it.  In situations like this,  it is probably best to be at a distance and see what happens.  You can always step in later.  Find out what the whole story is and then decide if you can help or not...

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Feb. 2, 2008 at 8:06 AM

I personal would offer to baby sit but would stay out of it. Sounds like the state has made a dission and they do not take taking kids away lightly. But I have at one time put a lock on the out side of the door to my dh door so she could lock her baby brothers out when she went to school. It was never used to keep her in. When I was little my brother had to be put in a harness to keep him in bed. If not he would get up in the middle of the night and hurt us. So their maybe more to things than they are willing to say is going on.

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