It has been 1 month since my miscarriage.  I'm still having a hard time moving on.  I miss my baby so much and I feel so empty without him/her with me.  There are still so many emotions.  I thought that after a month it would get easier, but I was wrong.  How do you say goodbye to something that you never even got to say hello to?                                                                                                                     

     In the two months that I was pregnant, I planned so much.  We had the names picked out already and what hospital we were delivering at.  I was already getting excited to breast feed.  Everything felt so on track and then suddenly, my whole life changed.  Now I'm questioning what to do now.  I guess I just need to take things day by day. 


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Feb. 2, 2008 at 10:50 AM It's really hard, and there are going to be bad days.  I've been through this a few times, would you like to be friends?  It makes me feel better to give support and a shoulder to lean on to others.  My name is Jill, btw.  You can see a little more about me and my history on my page.

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Feb. 2, 2008 at 10:53 AM

hello. so sorry 4 the pain u r feeling. i too know this feeling. it was hard 4 a LONG time. it was hard 2 see other babies & be happy 4 expecting & new moms. i can tell u that TIME is the only true healer.(at least 4 me) u can message me if u want to talk. God bless


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Feb. 2, 2008 at 10:54 AM Oh, I'm sooo sorry. I miscarried 1 1/2 yrs ago at 9 weeks. It's amazing how fast you fall in love with your baby. You have to remember it takes awhile for your hormones to get back in order. I know it doesn't seem like it now but it will get better. You are right take one day at a time.

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Feb. 2, 2008 at 10:54 AM

Its a very hard thing to get over. I know because I had 2 before I had my first kid. Know one knows why it happens, some Doctors will say that it was probably best because maybe the baby was not healthy but it still doesn't change the fact that it hurts. It makes you so scared the next time you get pregnant wondering if this will happen again, but in most woman it doesn't and you will go one to have a beautiful healthy baby.   



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Feb. 2, 2008 at 10:56 AM You don't have to say goodbye, it's more of a see you later.   I lost my baby girl when she was 2 months 12 days--I will see her again.  You have a mommy heart and that little guy knew how much you loved him.  Be good to yourself.

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Feb. 5, 2008 at 12:38 AM

First off I wanna appologize for your loss. I felt the same way after I lost my little one.


But as a Mom you know if it was a girl or a boy and my husband and I felt very strongly it was a girl. We had a bunch of girl names picked out, and one boy name. So as the mis carriage process was happening, my dad told him to pick out a name for the baby because he didn't want it to be an un-remembered, forgotten, un-named child. So he picked out Jamie Michelle which is the name i picked if it was a girl. (theres a point to this,  i promise lol)....

Naming her and going through the grieving process really helped me to understand what happened and why it happened. We had purchased books, toys, clothes, and other stuff for her, and we bought a chest that we decorated with her name on it and zoo animals (cuz we were gonna do her nursery in a zoo theme) and we put all of her stuff in there.

 It really just takes time. Time to heal, time to grieve. I lost my baby November 30th, and Im still heart broken. I see pregnant women everyday and it breaks my heart and makes me think of her. I actually got her initials tattooed on a rememberance. 

 I'll pray for you...let me know if you need anything

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Feb. 5, 2008 at 6:03 PM i know it is rilly hard i am still haveing a hard time. i think about my baby every day and night. everyone is alwasy asking what is wrong but i dont know how to explain anything. here is a web site i think you should look at. you can go and put your baby name in a book of shrin. you don't have to be cathloic or anything like that. but they will send you a certifice with you baby name on it. i have not recieved my yet but i am so excited. its, i hope it helps you like it has help me.

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Feb. 17, 2008 at 12:27 AM

I have nver had a miscarriage so I can only imagine the pain and sadness you are going through.  I just wanted to encourage you.  Never forget your sweet baby.  Keep an eye on the future, your time will come and it will be even better than you can ever imagine.


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Mar. 9, 2008 at 11:24 PM

Hello, sorry about your loss, i too had a miscarriage and i had a baby die and it hurt  very much. so i know what u are going through cuz it only been 1 month sense my little one left me. i am here if you like to talk

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