The past few days have been hell for me. I feel as though I am a horrible mom because I can not figure out my daughter, she has autism and the doctors wont do shit to help me understand her, or help her, or anything and all I want to do is stay in bed all day and let the kids do whatever they want, my daughter will be two in march and my son is 8 months, and I get to the point were I just want to stay in bed, or I get so frustrated I just scream and lose it. I hate the fact that I can not help my daughter, and I hate how upset I get about it. Sometimes I wonder if they would be happier with someone else, and if I am even cut out for this job. I dont know.

My daughters behavior changes more and more everyday, one day she will sit in the corner of the living room with one toy and play all day, occasionally getting up to hand me a cup cause she is thirsty but when I call her name it is as though she does not hear me and she is lost within herself, other days she throws fits for hours, not just normal terrible 2's either, she will kick punch scream, bite, and if I try to pick her up or get her too stop it is worse, those days I have to be very careful cause she will slam toys on her brothers head, or push him down or kick him, and I just cant control her. By three in the afternoon I am usually in tears praying someone would come pick them up for a few hours. I just feel like I am losing my mind, and there is no doctor willing to help her. Even her behavioral therapist, who I like a lot doesnt really know what to do, so why meet with her, just another hour a week where nothing gets accomplished.

I am getting depressed about all this and just wish for once doctors would listen to me, but I highly doubt that will ever happen

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ali_m...
Feb. 2, 2008 at 11:24 PM

I'm so sorry to hear that you and your daughter are going through this.

Ben is also very hard to control, and sometimes he will hurt Madison for no reason. Sometimes he's alright though, and other days are much harder, so I can kind of relate. He does throw fits big time...he will scream, hit, and bite..so this might be just a phase she is going through.

Have you tried going to a different doctor? Maybe someone else will be able to help.

Let me know..

Ali

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hconte
Feb. 2, 2008 at 11:51 PM All the doctors say is it is part of Autism, they throw fits more so then a normal child with terrible twos, which is not too encouraging, I just hate that I cant figure out what she wants cause she lost her vocabulary which is also part of autism, and lately she wont even listen when I say her name it is like she is in her own little world and it kills me

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ali_m...
Feb. 2, 2008 at 11:58 PM

I'm not sure if my son has that. I had a speech pathologist come to the house, and they are saying no. And he does much of the same thing your daughter does. If I were you I would get a second opinion..doctors aren't always right.

SOmetimes when I call Ben's name, he won't listen to me, especially if he's involved with a toy, or something he might be watching on t.v.

I would really get a second opinion..they might have to look into it more.

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hconte
Feb. 3, 2008 at 12:09 AM I did, two nerologist said the same thing, and she has all of the red flags of autism, but she is going to be seeing a lady at a program I was referred to so i am hoping it does some good

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ali_m...
Feb. 3, 2008 at 12:17 AM Well I hope so too, keep me updated on what happens

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