So I call my MIL up to let her know what is going on with the blood clot the doctor found and what this means for my pregnancy.  Instead of encouraging me and comforting me, she tells me that this is why she wanted me to get my tubes tied with Ahna.  I had no clue what to say, as I did not expect that from her at all.  I already feel guilty for wanting another child and getting pregnant.  I feel like all the complications I'm going through are my fault b.c I HAD to get pregnant and have another baby.  And then she adds even more guilt on top of that, verifying how I am already feeling.  I just got off the phone with her as soon as possible.  And I get to look forward to her taking me to the specialist Monday, b.c dh can't get off of work.

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Feb. 2, 2008 at 1:09 PM prayers. 

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Feb. 2, 2008 at 1:14 PM

You need to talk to your hubby about it, he needs to step-up and tell her to get off of your back... now that's always an ugly battle. But you need to be focusing on being mentally stable, happy so your little one can stay healthy too. My future MIL has made me feel like the rug she walks on more than once. We lost our daughter at 38wks in July '07 and had a miscarriage at 7 wks just this january. She wants to know "what your problem is, why you can't just keep a baby" Like I don't WANT to have a healthy baby here with us?!?

UGH! I definitly know how infuriating it can be to have to deal with the stress of worrying for your child, dealing with your own personal guilt/worry AND having a MIL tearing your down. Keep your chin up dearie... you just work on taking care of your little one.

: ) Krystle

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Feb. 2, 2008 at 2:35 PM Mothers and mothers in law are good at slapping that guilt on.  She has no right to do that to you, really.  You know you shouldn't feel guilty for this. 

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Feb. 2, 2008 at 3:00 PM That's just mean.

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Feb. 2, 2008 at 6:40 PM I don't understand why she had to say anything!  If you can't say anything nice, don't say ANYTHING at all!  That's just rude.  I hope she either realizes that or someone lets her know how rude and upsetting it was.  You shouldn't feel guilty for any of this!  I have told you that over and over.  None of this is your fault.  I think you are just being tested.

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Feb. 3, 2008 at 9:03 PM Don't you feel guilty.  You did not know this would happen, and even if you did, it is none of her business.  It is not for her to "want" your tubes tied.  Tell her to bite it:)  I know you won't.  You are too nice and probably a little at her mercy right now.  It will be over soon.

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