I just found out that I'm pregnant again. Four tests can't be all false positives can they? Well, I wanted to wait a couple years, settle down first. But birth control isn't 100% effective, and I guess I'm super fertile. I'm scared and upset right now, I don't know how to tell the father or my parents. This is so not how I wanted it to happen. I know in my heart I can't give this one up for adoption and I don't believe in abortion. any advice?


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Feb. 2, 2008 at 3:32 PM

Just be true to yourself and be honest.  Adoption is a wonderful option if you do not think you can raise this baby.  It would be extremely hard to do, but a child is forever and they are a big responsibility, but they are also a huge gift...

I would just follow your heart, I know you will make a good decision.  If you ever want to chat, I am here .

Good luck! 

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Feb. 2, 2008 at 4:40 PM

 "Adoption is a wonderful option if you do not think you can raise this baby."

Sorry, I am befuddled why someone would suggest adoption since you said that you couldn't do it again. And BTW, as a mother who lost a child to adoption, I don't think it is all that wonderful, and I doubt that you do now either.  Most amoms think it is a wonderful option, but, I sure as heck don't know too many birth/first moms who think so.

If you want to parent this child, know that you don't have to do it all alone, and that there are many resources available to help you parent well. You have time to prepare and be more ready by the time your baby is born.  Placing a child for adoption is more than just "extremely hard to do," - it is forever as well and affects the rest of your life AND your child's forever.  Becoming a parent can be an exciting and rewarding experience whether your child was planned or not.

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Feb. 2, 2008 at 5:15 PM ((HUGS))  God wouldn't give you anything you couldn't handle.  If something is meant to be - it will.  I don't have a lot of advice, as I can't imagine what you are going through right now, but I know you can do this. You are a strong woman!  ((HUGS))

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