My daughter and i went out for a stroll in this beautiful New York City winter weather.  We headed down the avenue to go baby shopping. Then i decided to go to the supermarket to pick up a few things. While in the market, i heard a woman cursing and speaking with attitude in both english and spanish and when i looked over she was trying to pull of bannas off of the bannana fake tree. Well they were hooked in pretty good and she was cursing up a storm trying to pull them off. So another shopper and I both looked at eachother and cracked up.  And she turned around and looked at me and started laughing and was saying something to the affect that ... she was mad cause she coudn't get the bananas easily. And we talked a little both in english and spanish and we all just laughed about it. i was about to move on when she turned around and with the ugliest voice she said" why did you give up your race ?  I couldn't believe she said that.  I said "what do you mean" she said why you let those people make you wear that. i Said "oh.. I didn't change my race. this is part of my religion. Well she went off on a tirade about how she wouldn't "wear that thang for nobody" she was trying not to curse but her tone said it all. And she was liek you spanish.. why you want to wear that that.. and she was pointing at my head and pointing at her head and making gestures like wrapping a scarf around her head. I told her " i wear this to be modest for God and so that i'm not gawked over by men in the street.  Well she with her hands on her hips and in a disgusting tone and look on her face said "i could never wear that thing" ...  All i could do was laugh.. because when i looked at her head.. her hair was tied back in a matted up ponytail. It looked like she hadn't passed a brush through her hair in weeks.  I just shook my head and walked away .. cracking up.. thinking about how she should worry about the knots on her head and not my scarf. I'm Muslim and im proud of my head scarf! The nerve of some people!!!!!!!!! 

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cherr...
Feb. 2, 2008 at 5:26 PM good for you!!!!!!!

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trace...
Feb. 2, 2008 at 5:28 PM

I remember being in the grocery store one time when our kids were little, and we are from a small town with not many diverse groups living here, anyway, there was a family who lived here who were muslim, and the mom was in the store with her children, and my son michael couldn't keep his eyes off her... it was so obvious that he was staring, I reminded him it wasn't polite, he was more than likely about three... anyway, she was so sweet to him, i was embarrased, she told him where she was from and that her husband was a doctor etc.... i will never forget that as long as i live... her kindness and gentleness with my son... it was cool  it is so sad when people can't just get it... and get along....

~Trace

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p2of9
Feb. 2, 2008 at 5:28 PM What a rude woman! 

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Mandi...
Feb. 2, 2008 at 5:31 PM Momma you be proud!!!  I hate that people feel the need to degrade others and think theyre somehow made superior....Brush it off my dear Aasiyah you know youre worth sweeter words:)

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mbeeman
Feb. 2, 2008 at 5:31 PM People are not very bright sometimes. I think that she needed to prioritize.

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holly111
Feb. 2, 2008 at 6:13 PM I cant believe someone would even say something like that.

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Norah...
Feb. 2, 2008 at 6:16 PM She was probably embarrassed, not that it is an excuse, but she sounds like the type to degrade someone when she feels bad about herself. I think  you handled yourself very well. Good for you and the great example you set for your daughter.

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mom_o...
Feb. 2, 2008 at 7:33 PM Way to go Aasiyah!! It's sad that others feel the need to talk down on others just to feel good about themselves. You handled that better than I would have. LOL

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cr8iv...
Feb. 2, 2008 at 7:48 PM Oh I have so much to say, but the short version is I used to feel like that lady for a very long time until one day it all began to make sense.  You were very nice to her and maybe you were able to plant a seed of knowledge and understanding that will one day blossom for this lady.  It is not easy being and looking different.  May Allah grant us all forgiveness and patience.

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miss_rae
Feb. 2, 2008 at 8:35 PM Wow!!  It is not her place to speak to you like that , and good for you for taking up for yourself.  SOmetimes people need to know when to hold their tounges. 

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