Ok, so my dh's parents favor the other golden grandchild over ours. They watch him all weekend every weekend long. Well this was there last chance to do something about it. My child has been sick with his ears and I am a college student, and I work. My dh works 14/12's and my family is the only one that watches him AT ALL! Well we asked his people to watch OUR SON FOR 1 little day so that I could attend school and work since I had not been able to go all week. Mind you that my son had blood work done and HE DID NOT HAVE A VIRAL INFECTION!!!!  The fever was from his ears!!! I got less static from the daycare and my teachers then I did his parents. Because they think my son has some viral virus with fever that I have paper work to prove THAT HE DOES NOT, they won't watch mine b/c the golden child will be there. SO your probably asking yourself right now the same question I myself right? Why didn't they just call the golden childs parents (my dh's brother) and say hey look Crystal and Karl are in a bind and Logan is sick and she needs us to take care of Logan today so she can work and go to school. Seems simple right!!!! Hahahahaaa not even close. Or how about saying we know you still need us to keep yours so when she picks him up bring the golden child back. Nope that would be way to fucking easy to. Instead a lady that is very dear to my dh and I took off work and is 76 years old and watched my son for myday to happen. So the point is this is not the first time and we are SICK OF THERE STUPID SHIT, LIES, and EXCUSES and we preceed to tell them that they are not allowed to see our son anymore. Well all of a sudden this is a problem, for what reason I still am not sure, they don't see him now b/c there precious goldenchild is ALWAYS IN THE WAY. So you know I don't want my child to feel rejected and hurt by what there doing. He is only 10 months old now and doesn't know what's going on but eventually he's going to be getting older and I don't want there lack of concern for him to affect him in anyway. I work to damn hard as a mother to let ANYONE hurt my child and I don't want him to learn that this is the way you treat your family. I have googled searched every possible way that I can think of trying to find out the effects this will have on him if we still allow them to see him, I am sure some of you out there can relate, anyone have any links or suggestions comments etc. Thanks!!!! Love you moms!!!

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LukeE...
Feb. 2, 2008 at 6:27 PM I can relate!  Unfortunately, I don't have and advice for you. :(   My in-laws not only favor my SIL's kids, they favor the SIL over my husband.  I don't know what is worse, you know??  I wanted to let you know you aren't alone. (((HUGS))

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Cryst...
Feb. 2, 2008 at 6:29 PM Yeah it seems to be pretty common thats why I am hoping someone out there will know whats up that can give all of us moms some advice on how to handle this type of thing maybe this will be a popular post

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Cloud...
Feb. 2, 2008 at 6:33 PM

I would like to make a suggestion. When growing up as a military brat we didnt have grandparents and etc around us. But we did have others that were adopted by the heart. Those who came for Christmas dinner or birhtdays or days to the swimming hole. I still have that going on in my life from others who attend the pow wows. So if your real family dont want ya, I do. I dont know how far we are but you can be a part of mine. Plus adoption of the heart means more than the legal paperwork. You know who you can count on, who loves you, who will smack ya when you are being silly or stupid, and love you all the same. Then when you have your other family just tell the real family sorry going out with a family member. They will wonder who and etc. Bless them and move on. Hope this helps.

Have a great day!:)

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Teddy...
Feb. 2, 2008 at 6:34 PM I haven't anything other than hugs and sympathy either, but I want you to know they're here for you.  As a mum I would be the same, mother gorilla to anyone who even remotely hurts my kids.  My parents always showed blatant favoritism between me and my siblings, and I know the effect it had on us.  There are still hurt feelings today, and we are all adults.  The worst part is when the individuals deny that they do it.  Best of luck dear, I hope it can be resolved peacefully somehow.

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Cryst...
Feb. 2, 2008 at 6:47 PM Ok well I guess then what I want to know is what kind of effects have you all incountered with favortisim whether it be from grandparents and how it effects your children or it effected and impacted your lives with your siblings and you personally when your parents did this to you.

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