My husband died exactly four weeks ago today. Today I was cleaning out the basement, breaking down boxes, the usual stuff...well, I came across a stack of Anthony's emails. When we first started out he was so romantic-he was always romantic-but the newness of it all was kind of sweet. Later on, when Anthony found out that I was printing off his emails, he made fun of me. I told him, "These are our generation's love notes. If I just delete them they'll be gone forever."

Well, this afternoon I came across an e-card that Anthony sent me back in 2000, counting down to the exact MINUTE of our first date. He asked, "whatever shall we do?" Then, sweetly ended with, "whatever you wish, and it is done."

Don't ever let anyone ridicule you for keeping sentimental objects-even if they're scraps of paper. Someday you will need them.

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Feb. 2, 2008 at 6:58 PM  i am sorry for your loss. i too am a setimental person who keeps everything. i have the roses that my hubby gave me our forst valentines day. i dried them and put them away. he thinks i am nuts but, i may need them someday.   i am deeply sorry for your loss.

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Feb. 2, 2008 at 7:34 PM Oh, Wendoo, I wish I was there to give you a big hug!!  I kept every letter Justin and I have ever written to each other.  We used to take little pieces of paper and write lovey notes of some sort on them and slip them in each others purse or wallet.  Then later in the day we would read them alone and call one another.  To this day he has carried the one in his wallet dated July 7th 2000.  That was the day we were going to find out if Curt was a boy or girl.  I went on to say how excited I was that he was the father of my first child.  We are sentimental like that.  I carry around the one that he promised to love me forever and be faithful to only me for the rest of our lives.  I pull it out every once in a while and make him read it aloud to me.

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Feb. 2, 2008 at 9:09 PM (((((HUGS))))) Isn't it wonderful how he still talks to you????

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Feb. 2, 2008 at 10:27 PM

Always cherish that, my husbands been gone a long time, 18 yrs now he died 2 months before our daughter was born  I have a few things I just cannot let go of, people tell me to get rid of them, your keeping the pain alive, yeah maybe but its my pain


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Feb. 5, 2008 at 8:33 PM

oh hon i am so glad you kept those.

some day when your son is older... when he is a man, he can read them and see the love his parents have for each other.  hugs sweetie, i know you miss him so much. 

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Feb. 11, 2008 at 1:00 AM I agree with HickChick's point of view above. He's still sending {{{HUGS}}} your way :)

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Feb. 11, 2008 at 2:07 PM That's so sweet!  He WILL be with you forever!

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Feb. 17, 2008 at 12:34 AM

Wendeeo - this is soooo sweet.  I'm so glad you have these memories to hold near your heart.


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Jun. 6, 2008 at 1:20 AM wow.  it's good to have those memories, isn't it?

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