Ok so i know that this is kinda personal, but i need to know what everyone else does or how everyone else deals with this.

My hubby is like a woman when it comes to sex. He doesn't want it all the time, but i want it pretty often. Since he doesn't want it all the time i am having to pratically beg him for it. If i am horny as hell and he doesn't want it than i have to just forget about it or please myself. But as soon as he wants it he gets it. I have tried to say no to him before and i have been successful at it a few times but when he finally wants sex i give in because it has probably been quite a while. We even get into arguments because i'm tired of begging for sex, he says if i want it so  much that i should go somewhere else, but i wouldn't cheat on him or go somewhere to get it. Plus if i was to cheat on him he would leave me. So i don't know what to do.

It even makes me  feel like he is not attracted to me anymore. Before we got pregnant we had sex all the time. I think there was even a time where we had sex like 17 days straight or someting like that, i only know that cause i was keeping track of it in case i got pregnant or whatever.

i want to know who else has this problem or if i'm the only one with this drama. 

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Feb. 2, 2008 at 7:02 PM

I can't believe I am fixing to type this..but your not alone.  I have been there.  I think it is normal for sex to decrease some.  But my DH went through "dry spells".  I used to beg. Then get upset.  One time we got into a fight about it. I waited a few days then asked him if we could talk.  I calmly told him that if he didn't take care of his wife, she was going to find someone who would. (I would never cheat. I was talking out my azz). He finally told me that he was worried I wasn't enjoying it or that I was tired of it.  He makes it a point to "get 2 stars a week" on the cally. (I keep track just in case something happens.

Maybe there is some other underlying problem..stress, job, etc.

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Feb. 2, 2008 at 7:07 PM

maybe your right and i will have to try talking to him like that, but he is not a person to express his feelings. And we are about to get our taxes back so i can't imagine what he is stressed about. I dont know. But it is so hard.

I really appreciate you for answering me. Thank you so much. You did make me feel a little better.

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Feb. 2, 2008 at 7:08 PM O boy.......U sound like my married.. I got tried of bagging..So if it happens it happens. There's times that i got to wait 2 months to get it...I don't know if he just getting to old for it...I don't know..My man is 50.. But i have a 3 year old son from him..I am very happy with him..But that's the only thing that kills me is my sex life...But i learn to look at different thing in my life.   OK u must say i am it boning sex life..

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Apr. 28, 2008 at 3:45 PM

I am going through the exact same thing....i almost thought I wrote all that down. I always want sex and he never does. It makes me feel like crap or maybe if i was someone else he'd want it more. I feel like I'm not good enough for him. every time I try to turn him on he's like no not tonight. He gives me days we might have sex and I don't think something like that should be planned out. I have no idea what to do, and must i mention that I'm not even married yet!!! Its so weird we used to have it all the time. its been this way even before i had my daughter. I always get upset too. Iv'e gotten to the point where I don't even try anymore. 

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