WHY DO MEN CREATE SUCH STUPID DRAMA???CAN ANYONE TELL ME WHY???SOME CUSSING!

[minben73]

OK I AM VENTING RIGHT NOW BECAUSE I HAVE BEEN THROUGH HELL AND BACK.

SEE, MY SON HAD BACK SURGERY ON FEB. IST. WE GOT THERE ALITTLE AFTER 11:00AM BECAUSE WE HAD TO BE THERE 2 HOURS EARLY. HIS SURGERY WASN'T SCHEDULED UNTIL, 1:30PM. OK SO WE WERE THERE AND THEN WE WERE NOTIFIED THAT IT WAS GOING TO BE POSTPHONED FOR AT LEAST 2 MORE HOURS. OK SO WE WAITED AND WAITED AND WAITED. BEFORE I KNOW IT IT WAS 5:30PM SO I ASK WHAT IS TAKING SO LONG. MIND YOU MY SON HADN'T HAD ANYTHING TO EAT SINCE THE NIGHT BEFORE.WELL THE ONE NURSE CAME TO ME AND TOLD ME IT IS GOING TO BE DELAYED AGAIN 3-4 MORE HOURS. SOME IDIOT MESSED UP SCEDULING AND THEN THE SURGERY BEFORE MY SON TOOK ALOT LONGER THAN ORIGIONALLY PLANNED. THEY WENT AHEAD AND PUT HIM IN A ROOM AND WE WAITED UNTIL,9:00PM!!!!

MY SON WAS SOOOOOOOOOOOO HUNGRY AND SCARED AND I WAS TIRED AND AGRIVATED.TO ADD TO MY PROBLEMS AT THE HOSPITOL, MY SWEET HUBBY DECIDED TO CREATE ALOT OF DRAMA BECAUSE HE WAS BEING STUPID.

HE STARTED DRINKING AFTER I LEFT FOR THE HOSPITOL. WHAT A STUPID MISTAKE!!! HE KEPT CALLING ME UP AND WAS A JERK AND CALLED ME HORRIBLE NAMES, AND HE YELLED AND SCREAMED AT ME WHEN I HUNG UP ON HIM. THAT JERK PROMISED HE WOULD NOT DRINK AND HE PROMISED HE WAS GOING TO BE A GOOD HUBBY AND A GOOD FATHER. HOW CAN YOU BE A GOOD HUBBY AND FATHER WHEN YOU ARE DRUNK AND CALLING WIFE AT HOSPITOL CREATING DRAMA WHEN THERE IS NO NEED TO? I TURNED OFF MY CELL PHONE AND WHEN I FINALLY TURNED IT ON, I HAD 30 MESSEGES FROM HUBBY TELLING ME THAT I AM A BITCH. WTF? HE ACCUSED ME OF TALKING WITH MEN ON THE INTERNET AND SCREWING AROUND ON HIM WITH A MEXICAN.SOO NOOOOTTT TRUUUUEEEE!  I WAS SO PISSED OFF AND ANGRY BECAUSE I REALIZED HE WAS YET AGAIN, DRUNK. THAT SON OF A BITCH WAS ALONE WITH OUR 3 DAUGHTERS AND HE IS ACTING WORSE THAN A 2-YEAR OLD.I COULD NOT EAT ANYTHING OR SLEEP MUCH IN THE ROOM WHERE WE WERE STAYING. MY NERVES WERE SHOT. WELL WHEN HE GOT UP ON SAT. HE CALLED AND SAID HE WAS SORRY THAT HE ACTED THE WAY THAT HE DID. I DID NOT ACCEPT HIS APPOLOGY, AND I TOLD HIM THAT HE NEEDS TO STOP DRINKING BEFORE HE LOOSES ME AND THE KIDS FOR GOOD. WELL UNFORTUNEATLY, HE GOT MAD AT ME AGAIN AND I KEPT HANGING UP ON HIM BECAUSE HE DECIDED TO KEEP SCREAMING AT ME NO MATTER WHAT I SAID TO HIM. WELL HE DONE SOMETHING ELSE THAT I AM EXTREMELY PISSED OFF ABOUT.

HIS MOTHER CALLED ME FROM MASSACHUTTETS YESTERDAY EVENING. SHE TOLD ME THAT HE CALLED HER AND TOLD HER THAT MY SON'S HEART STOPPED AND THAT THEY  BROUGHT HIM BACK!!!!

IMAGINE THE ANGER THAT I FELT. NOW HES LYING TO PEOPLE ABOUT MY SON.

WTF IS WRONG WITH THAT DICK? I REASSURED HER THAT WAS NOT THE CASE.

I CALLED OUR NEIGHBORS, AND HE TOLD THEM THE SAME DAMN THING!WHY?

I DON'T GET IT, I DON'T UNDERSTAND IT.? I HAD TO TELL THEM AS WELL THAT IT WAS NOT TRUE. 

WELL WE CAME HOME ON SAT. NIGHT, AROUND 11:00PM AND HE TRIED TO KISS ME WHICH I REFUSED TO GIVE HIM ONE. THE DAMN HOUSE IS A FREAKING MESS, HE LET 2 OF THE 3 RUN HOG WILD AND THE HOUSE IS TRASHED!!

HE HAS THE NERVE TO TELL ME THAT HE LOVES ME!  HA HA WHAT A JOKE! I TOLD HIM THAT I THINK WE NEED TO SEPERATE BECAUSE HE IS NOT CAPEABLE OF BEING RESPONSIBLE.     WAS I   WRONG?  I DON'T THINK SO. HE BROKE OUR HOME PHONE.THE HOUSE IS A MESS!!!!!!HE DID NOTHING BUT BREAK THINGS AND DRINK AND CAUSE CRAP FOR ME .MY DAUGHTER DEBRA EVEN TOLD ME THAT HE WAS MEAN TO HER AND THAT PISSED ME OFF EVEN MORE.

I TOLD HIM EVERYTHING WAS WORKING CORRECTLY WHEN I LEFT, THEN WHEN I LEAVE ALL FING HELL BREAKS LOOSE. I AM SO DISAPPOINTED IN MY HUSBAND. I AM ALMOST CERTAIN THAT I WANT TO END OUR MARRIAGE. I AM SO DONE WITH HIS SHIT AND HIS DRAMA. 

[ngalindo32386]

Feb. 3, 2008 at 2:06 AM wow, im sorry to hear about ur hard times, but it dosnt sound like he deserves you,, he needs to grow up and to stop drinking and to be a man,,, goodluck

[minben73]

Feb. 3, 2008 at 2:08 AM THANK YOU I AM STILL LIVID OVER WHAT HE DID.

(Original Poster)

[I51504vett]

Feb. 3, 2008 at 2:10 AM

 I hope that your son has a speedy recovery! My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. Unfortunately some people deal with stress in strange and unacceptable ways..... your husband has a drinking problem that he definately needs to deal with.... has he even discussed getting into a 12 step program or would he tell you to take a flying leap???? have you checked into what your insurance will cover...

[Crashmonster1]

Feb. 3, 2008 at 2:11 AM I am so sorry.  First off I hope your son did well in his surgery and I hope he is not in to much pain.  Second OH my god what a prick sorry to be blunt but thats just me.  I would have been so freaked to know that my hubby was drunk with 3 small girls in the house, and the lying thing just blows me outta the water.  I wish you the best and I hope your son does well but Geez what can you say about a piece of work hubby that you have described.  Good luck to you

[minben73]

Feb. 3, 2008 at 2:16 AM

WELL HE WILL NOT STOP DRINKING NOT EVEN FOR ME OR OUR MARRIAGE. I'VE TRIED TELLING HIM THAT IS WHAT IT'S GOING TO TAKE FOR ME TO BE HAPPY. BUT YOU KNOW THAT YOU CAN'T FORCE PEOPLE INTO DOING WHAT THEY DON'T WANT TO DO. SO I SUPPOSE THAT I AM GOING TO HAVE TO MAKE A DECISION WHICH WILL HURT AND BREAK MY HEART, I AM SO UPSET. I HAVE A MEDICAL CARD AS DOES HE. BUT I HAVE SUGGESTED MARRIAGE COUNCILLING BUT HE REFUSES TO ADMIT THERES A PROBLEM WITH US.

THANK YOU FOR YOUR KIND WORDS AND PRAYERS.

(Original Poster)

[jasmia]

Feb. 3, 2008 at 2:17 AM I do understand the situation and maybe all the aggravation was intensified because of the surgery but him drinking isn't going to help the situation. When you make me a promise I feel that you are committed to keeping it because if I made you a promise I will make sure that I am committed to keeping mine, no matter what the situation is. I have one just like him so I know what you are talking about. The only difference is once I got through tearing him a new one and showed him all that he will miss once I was gone, he did change his stripes and things are better but I still have a careful watch out for him. Not to say that my way was a good way but I've always been told that you should always make sure that you are respected, loved, and made to feel that you are the queen of all queens. So look into your heart and see what you truely feel and what you really want. Just make sure that you make it clear that he should never ever disrespect you in that way again especially if he loves you as much as he says he does...... There is no excuse for disrespecting the person that you love!

[Siouxzy]

Feb. 3, 2008 at 2:20 AM

Girl , I'm so very sorry!!!!  Been there too!   He needs to stop thinking the world revolves around him...and grow the freak up!  If he's gonna act out, he needs to go home to his own mama! Let her deal with her momma's boy...and I have a son.  If my son EVER acted like that towards his woman and children, my big assed boots would be up his "darling" ass!!!!!

Where have all the real men gone?  Do the males of the world even know what a real man is?  I don't think so. Scream it to them!!!!....it's not about YOU and it's not about control...it's about being human and loving and caring and giving of yourself.    Can somebody  PLEASE  get that through?

 You, my dear, are the stronger one..and take strenghth and pride in that.  HANG IN THERE ..youll be fine.

How is your son? I hope,after all the medical stupidity ( I"ve worked in medicine too long) that he's doing just fine...look me up on here if you want.

 Sunny

[minben73]

Feb. 3, 2008 at 2:20 AM

YOU KNOW AS I AM READING THIS I AM ACUALLY LAUGHING. SORRY. MY SON IS DOING BETTER SOMEWHAT BUT IS STILL IN SOME PAIN. HES PRETTY MEDICATED RIGHT NOW. THANK GOD I HAD NEIGHBORS THAT I ASKED TO GO OVER MY HOME AND CHECK ON MY 3 YOUNG GIRLS. I WOULD DIE IF ANYTHING WOULD'VE HAPPENED TO THEM

THANKS AGAIN.

(Original Poster)

[Lovebugbaby]

Feb. 3, 2008 at 7:49 AM

Girl I'm sure you know what I'm going to say because you know my opinion of your husband.

As soon as you said "he started to drink" I knew. Honey, if he couldn't even stay sober enough to take care of his children for a whole freaking 24 time period, he's not going to change. He's what we would call a none believing alcoholic and it doesn't seem like he cares. Sure you can stay with him to help him "threw" his tough time, but your kids don't need nothing to do with it.

He was mean to your daughter? WTF is his problem?!? I'd love to slap him silly and I don't even know the man.

I don't want to sound mean, but you said "almost certain" you want to end your relationship with him. What else does he need to do to make you realize you should get out? He's called you names, hurt your feelings, hurt your childs feelings, spread lies, dirty the house, break stuff,  and drink. Everything shy of phyisical abuse. I don't want it to come down to that.

Good Luck

Oh, and I have always been told, if someone accuses you of something, it may mean they have a guilty conscience. IE...him cheating on you, not the other way around... :(

[SUNSHINEGIRL_30]

Apr. 4, 2008 at 8:03 PM

I'M SORRY TO HEAR ABOUT THIS!  I DON'T KNOW YOU , AND CAN'T REMEMBER HOW I CAME ABOUT YOUR PAGE, BUT I FEEL WHERE YOUR COMING FROM. I AM THINKING YOU ARE UNDER ALOT OF STRESS, SO DON'T ACT TO HASTILY, I KNOW FROM MY OWN MISTAKES, BUT , IF YOU REALLY HAVE LOOKED DEEP DOWN IN YOUR HEART, AND FEEL THIS IS ALL THAT CAN HELP YOU BE HAPPY AND RESOLVE THINGS THEN GO FOR IT, JUST DO IT CALMLY, BECAUSE YOU DID MARRY HIM FOR A REASON, AND AT SOME POINT I'M SURE YOU LOVED HIM.NOW, FOR THE MEAN SIDE OF ME, MY HUBBY DOESN'T DRINK, BUT HE CAUSED DRAMA FOR ME WHEN I HAD MY HYSTRERECTOMY AND I STILL TO THIS DAY, HOLD A GRUDGE FOR THAT, BUT IO LOVE HIM AND AM NOT GONNA LET THE DEVIL WIN! :0) HOPE THIS HELPS A LITTLE, TAKE CARE! ~ERICA