Question: Would you or did you keep your husbands lastname after a divorce?





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I was wondering if you and your husband were to get divorced would you keep his last name? IF so why? If not why? Also if you have been in a divorce did you keep the lastname or not?

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Feb. 3, 2008 at 8:10 AM i have been divorced and NO, I did not keep his last name. There are many reasons why I didn't, but the main one is because he was very abusive to me and I didn't want any part of him.

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Feb. 3, 2008 at 8:10 AM

I have had my name changed back to my maiden in court papers. But, for twenty years now, (I just found out, LOL) my name has been that of my ex whom I divorced back in 1988. I never knew I had to legally change it on my social security card until I just filed taxes yesterday...ha ha...Yes, I am changing it.

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Feb. 3, 2008 at 8:11 AM I probably would so I'd still have the same last name as my kids. I know it doesn't really matter, but that's what my mom did when my parents got divorced and it made me feel like we were still part of the same family even if my parents didn't get along. I guess they had been married 14 years, so she was so used to the name anyway and everyone knew her as that.

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Feb. 3, 2008 at 8:13 AM I was divorced form my daughters father several years ago and as an 8 year old, it has affected her that I chose to take my last name back. My family raised us girls that we were born with this name, we should die with this name. Nowadays I see the impact my decision plays on my daughter and I would change it for her, but seeing as how I am in a different relationship now, I don't think it would be a good idea!

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Feb. 3, 2008 at 8:13 AM Because if I were divorcing him I wouldn't want any part of him.

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Feb. 3, 2008 at 8:54 AM no divorce here, but have been married almost 21 years and have a nearly grown son.  So, yes, I would keep the name.  Too much time has gone by to change back to my maiden and I'm not that person anymore either. 

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Feb. 3, 2008 at 9:05 AM I could see keeping the name after so many years of marriage....But if it was less then 10 I wouldn't

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Feb. 3, 2008 at 9:46 AM I would keep the name. I don't see the point in going back, but that is probably due to how my side of my family has affected me.

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Feb. 3, 2008 at 10:45 AM

Alot of people say they keep it for the childrens sake but would change it if they got remarried....I don't get that...Thats hypocritical


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Feb. 3, 2008 at 7:45 PM I wouldn't get remarried. Marriage is hard and painful and lots of work and I can't imagine anyone else besides the man I'm married to being worth the trouble. Marriage is good, too, of course, but you take the good with the bad.

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