This road has been hard. The road ahead will be even harder I am sure. My H and I have been separated for 7 months now. I thought it would be a wake up call for him to get his act together. He has not responded the way most men would have. I asked him to do three hard things. 1. Admit he has a problem (he has had many affairs--at least 2 different time each some overlapping each other-- with at least 6 women and one teen) and be working on fixing it. 2. Take care of his family ( he has a job that he had not been paid for 5 weeks and does not get paid what he agreed to work for) 3. be a spiritually changed person. (he was a deacon when he had all of the affairs and molested the teen) I wanted him to be Psalm 53 broken. I have not seen any of these things. I cannot accept him home the way he is and he will not change anymore without Divine intervention (he needs to be aware and willing to let this happen). So now is about the time to stop fooling myself. I am tired. Thanks for listening. I am looking forward to the future. 

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Feb. 3, 2008 at 8:33 AM Some men will only do what THEY want to do...sounds like he is not willing to look outside his self. I hope that you can find peace in that and accept it.

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Feb. 3, 2008 at 8:41 AM i'm at the same place you are. I wish you the best................

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