Okay first off i wish i knew how to get my son to stop talking, he has been talking non stop all weekend i want to scream and its about everything and everything. ANd i can not go and not pay attention because he would grab my hand my arm my face etc.

Then i got my sister that i want to scream as well with. She don't get my son. Because of the rip paper incident, she feels he thinks like a normal child and isn't stupid. I get that, but she do n't get Autistics aren't stupid!

And because of my son's needs i really don't concider him part of the spectrum, even thou he is PDD nos.

Because he isn't like all other children. But again all children aren't created the same or have the same needs.

Because my son is 4 yrs behind. Thats what he is, just four years behind. He has regular thinking and always has. He has a heart of gold. But he has some symptoms here and there of Autism. His allergy specialist once said he has Autistic like symptoms.

His hand finger flapping, His difficulty with other peers of social interaction, but he does try and socialize with adults. His over obsession with Spiderman or the Goose bumps haunted mask.

My sister tries to say thats normal, she is obsessed with shoes and her husband with Harley davidson stuff. To me not the same.

he has bathroom issues with the pooping and is 12yrs old. :Little eye contact. some cognitive issues and jargon when nervous.

Plus he has sensory issues with large crowds and environment. And in district he had a fear of the fire drill since he left, that has stopped.

But if you go to the store with him he recognizes everything and he knows what he wants too. And can name it what not.

And he has a excellent memory he went to his old school in the district for evalution for O/T he remembered each and everyone, and new them by name.

But not that i want to keep mentioning my sons Disablity My sister and brother in law infuriate me. Because they don't understand and there is nothing wrong with having an normal brain.

I believe he thinks normally. But on a different level,  he is 4 yrs behind. with some Autistic symptoms.

when he was evaluated in 2005 for educational, he came out on a 1st grade level. and he was in the 4th or 5th grade. He had the same teacher two years in the row.

And the things he does and do, i feel he will have a good life. Thats not the issue here.

But they say i aggravate them by bringing it up. But they dont get him or his disablity. Or that they aggravate me. Or the fact he does have stuff of that. If he didn't he wouldn't be in a special school.

And if i could i wish that my son was 500% Nuro typical child. But, how do you convince ppl?

Or how do i get my son to stop talking?

 

One mother juggling the world trying not to go insane..

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The store issue she don't get, she talks about how my son needs to go out more. But how one i have no money at all thanks to ex killed my money cushion.

im a single mother of two disablied kids and i can't get a head.i keep being told i make to much money, plus A/C i wish i new where how much i pay out, i don't see it honest to god.

Will all i pay out. im broke. And the weekends is my time to rest and catch up, with what i didn't do during the week.

She has lots of m oney, she has no kids. I pay rent, she pays none at my dads and if does bailey any. I pay oil high, gas, for the house i got screwed here, electric, phone, cable, credit cards, medical out of pocket.

And when ex don't pay i lose money, now im suppose to get money back in tax's i should be happy i paid out more this year then last year, i get less and if my ex don't pay i lose it plan and simple.

So tell me when  and its freezing out, she takes him shopping, and he puts so much in cart she pays i can't do that, i don't have an oil well and everybody wants to take him because he is easier he is one

i juggle two kids.

THis royally pissed me off, my ex is exactly the same way he takes him and her one and i get both, which isn't easy

but if you take them separate of course they are easy.

But i don't get that luxury. Im sorry it just burns me up.

ANd im sick and tired of ppl telling me how i piss my money away how? I wish i new. Honest to god.

I have REnt 1100.00, Oil any where from 288.00 and up. And i don't have heat on during the day. Im getting ripped off. im screwed paying the gas for this place the guy upstairs don't pay shitt. Electric, everything is on my bill, i don't know how much he pays for upstairs. cable basic, phone. Frankie medical bills last year 2000.00 not including dr, 323. then this year alone is going to be way more. Because they say i make to much money, i don't they go by gross i don't see.  So my first insurance medical with kids was 75.00 and every month 37.50.. Then i have alot of co pays, not small my kids medicines from health food store 20.00 something each bottle not cheap.

food.. i dont make much, and ex don't always pay like he sh ould so i lose money. Why don't anybody get it. i don't make much at work, and i don't have medical coverage, again they say i make to much, so i have to pay out of pocket because i can't afford medical coverage on me.

I pay once a year life insurance, car insurance.  I don't go no where. i have no money to go no where.

But im getting sick and tired of being told i have alot of mo ney, where. with the high cost of living.

and i wish i got my gross pay, because it would be better then what i bring home and i get no raise, or no cost of l iving raises from this company, i had the same money since sept 2006

march i will be there two years.

Sorry for this rant. Im tired of it, and if i didn't have DDD supplying a homehealth aide twice a day monday through friday, i wouldn't be able to work.

Child care if like two hundred a month for each child, at the ymca, plus membership..

Sorry i really wish honest to god, i wish i can  see what everybody else does. Because then i would be living great, im living okay, barely making ends met.

Monday is tori's ados appointment for her eval last testing thank god, hope if answers alot of questions and opens more doors. But that will cost me $ 25.00.

I know there isn't anything to say im stuck, with no life, no money. can't go anywhere, while everybody else  has one, my sister and husband go cross country on a motorcycle buy where ever they want.

have divorced friends that got remarried and have two kids.

Im divorced with an ex with a live in girlfriend,, and what do i got. and its not a poor me, i jsut hate this world i really do

 

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yarnpull
Feb. 3, 2008 at 5:38 PM It's disheartening to see one who works so tirelessly for their children like you being put through such BS as you are now. Looks like those around you just use you for a placemat instead of being there for you. I am sorry you've found yourself in this predicament. I wish there was something I could say to aid you in your time of need.

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wonde...
Feb. 3, 2008 at 5:52 PM i don't think there is anything to say.. Because it seems to me i have the world against me no matter what i can not get ahead. Or credit for fighting for my kids and trying to give them a future. Or money as well i put so so much out with drs for them. i never get it back. and im sure if i sat back and not do anything or spend anymore to help them. then i would be rich as everybody says i am. THen they would say im a bad mother. But instead its the opposite.

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