My hubby, video games, and deployment...

[armymom2007]

So, my hubby has been deployed for what feels like forever but has only been a short time. Before he left, he would come home, take off half his uniform, sit down, and start playing video games on him computer, and that is where he would be until he decided to go to bed. Now let me also mention we have 3 little girls, the youngest is now 6 months and the oldest will be 4 years in July. His video games caused some problems in our marriage.. both in the bedroom and outside.. It bothers me that he spends so much time playing his dumb games and very little with our kids and me. But now that he is deployed, his game playing has gotten even worse! We talk everyday, online, thru Skype. Usually our "calls" are spent with him talking to the girls and I about what he is missing and how things are going over there, but lately our calls are more of us spending time listening to the buzz of the gameserver he and his room mate have set up in their room. Its hard enough having him gone and not being able to talk to him anytime I want, but its even worse when I DO get the chance to talk to him and he is more interested in playing his video game than talking to his wife and kids.. I am starting to get really depressed about it, and I am beginning to DREAD his calls.. I LOVE him more than anything, he and our daughters are my whole world, but this is driving us apart and he doesn't even seem to see it...

 Sorry, just felt the need to vent about it since talking to him about it is a waste of my time, energy, and breath...

[jenmomof5]

Feb. 6, 2008 at 4:26 AM I am so sorry, my ex was the same way. I would leave for work at noon and come home 10 hours later and he would be sitting in the same place as when I had left. I have a mean streak and I pawned the PS2 and put a password on the computer so he would pay attention to the kids while I was gone instead of games.  I hope all works out for you.

[nikitaboom]

Feb. 8, 2008 at 12:40 AM well, all I can say is I'm sorry for how sad u're feeling hun. I think u should try to nip it in the butt but in a nice way...like not sending him games while he's away. if he plays online games....try engaging him more while he's playing... forcing him to answer questions and distracts him from the games.

[JZamora13]

Feb. 12, 2008 at 10:02 AM I'm sorry, I know how you feel, although, I have no idea what its like to have a deployed hubby, my is absent a lot of the time. When he is home, he watches ESPN, like its the fucking news!! Chin up, though and try and remember why you love him in the first place!!! That seems to help me.