Lately I have been thinking about what it would be like to have another child.i really do want one and so does my husband but heres where doubts come to my mind.my first pregnancy was fine afterwards my bp was a little high but nothing too serious.in my second pregnancy at about 7 months my bp was high i had preeclampsia.,and had to deliver at 34 weeks she weighed 3,15.then 2 years later i had a miscarriage at about 3 months.then about 1 year later i got pregnant with our third child..at about 6 months my bp started to rise.one night at about 31 weeks all of a sudden i couldnt see and was rushed to the hospital before i got there i had 2 seizures.i had to have a c-section.eveysince then ive been on bp meds.i kinda blame myself cause i was eating high salt foods everyday.i had also had to reschedule a couple of appts. and i think maybe if i had gone i wouldnt have had to go through that.when my daughter was 2 i got pregnant again this time i dint know because i was pregnant in my tubes.they guessed from the symptoms and ties i gave i was about 4-5 months.i had been told the pain is from a uti.and i went back again and thats when thy did a pregnancy test and i was pregnant for sure.but they couldnt tell me how far.then we figured out when my pains started about 4-5 months.of course i couldnt have the baby and i needed emergency surgery.the doctor asked if i wanted my tubes to be clipped ,he was like you can have it reversed so i said yes.he could couldnt save the tube i was pregnant in so now i only have1.if i get it reversed will i even get pregnant and if so i know i will be a high risk so now im tihinking is it possible to have a normal pregnancy?

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katemn
Feb. 16, 2008 at 1:07 AM I wrote a similar journal post, about whether I want to have another baby.  It is a hard problem, but a good one, because life offers us these choices.   My dilemma is not really in having another baby, because I enjoy being pregnant and love the little warm bodies, but in raising another child to adulthood.  I want to travel and spend much more time weaving and possibly even raising livestock, and the less feasible it is to do these things the more children I have.  In your case, it sounds like you are worried about the pregnancy, not really about the life you'll have with another child, because you know once you get through the pregnancy your baby will be fine and you'll have a wonderful life raising this child along with his/her brothers and sisters.  The pregnancy, and any problems that may or may not come with it, is temporary, but your child will be with you for the rest of your life and grow up to be a loving, productive, amazing human being.   Well, that's my perspective, anyway, for what it's worth, and I wish you joy and satisfaction in your ultimate decision.   

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