CHILL OUT LADY!! geeze - CUSSING!

[Stephanie528]

I swear - I have the biggest love hate relationship with this SITE ever! I made a post about the whole - mom - step-mom type deal! I have said my opinion and asked people for theirs! SO WHAT if I would NOT let my son call some other woman MOM - he has a MOM ....She would be his STEP MOM!!!

Ohhhhhhh well if I don't agree with you!!! SO WHAT! I am entitled to my own thoughts ! Jesus, there was 57 posts about the topic and some women felt the way that I did and some didn't, whatever - but everyone who didn't ganged up and it was so stupid!

Big deal! What works for your family, would not work for mine!! I feel like the only time it's really okay to completely claim that child yours is if, A. Mom died..B. You've RASIED the child, moms out of the picture. And a few other times but I think we can get the point...

How redlicious - that some woman (and I'm being very nice with the name here) would say...Ohhh I think moms like that are insecure with their motherhood - GET REAL! Have some respect for the mother of the child, YOU did not carry that child in your womb for 9 months, YOU didn't take the multivitamins, YOU didn't go into labor and give birth to that child, YOU didn't wake up with them in the middle of the night, so far and so forth...LIKE I SAID, THERE ARE SOME CASES WHERE YOU STEP UP AND YOU ARE THE REAL MOTHER IN OTHER WAYS - IF THEIR BIRTH MOTHER IS NOT AROUND!!!!!!!

Also, adoption ....you adopted that baby, YOU ARE THE MOTHER...YOU are the one who loves that child...You wanted him/her to be in your life forever. I would NEVER downtalk adoption...that is a TOTALLY different story ...you might not have carried that baby - but you bond from the minute their in your home/heart. So that's not even the topic here. This is about kids who have mothers INVOVLED!

Yes, when you marry someone with kids, and this is for men and women ....you are basically getting married to those kids too - you are promising to love them and charish them and to take care of them -- but have some respect for their moms!!!

I've SEEN my brother go through this as a child - he's my (half) older brother and his dad FORCED him to call his stepmom MOM and he would cry and cry over it...Maybe your child isnt comfortable with it...

I can't even call Rich's parents Mom and Dad and it's been almost 6 years!!!!!!! I'm able to call his dad Pops because I've always called my dad DAD, but I can NOT bring myself to call his mom - MOM ..I just call her LIl because I just don't want to ever call anyone but my mom MOM - it's her RIGHT

Now, this is my journal ...so I have a choice if things will get deleted, either share what you feel in a polite matter, or just don't leave anything at all.

-Same with Step-Dads- Not just moms.

[angeligirl0301]

Feb. 11, 2008 at 10:42 PM Ii agree with you 100%. i'm the momma no matter what.

[Doodlebug70]

Feb. 11, 2008 at 10:46 PM

BRAVO! BRAVO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I got bashed last week for posting a joke and not making it clear it was joke and got mauled by it so it made me explain it was a joke! Some people need to learn to stop being so ignorant. I completely understand where you are coming from! I'm the Mom and that's it!

[caralynn927]

Feb. 12, 2008 at 10:13 AM I agree with you. My step daughter lives with me, her mom passed away and she calls me her stepmom. She doesn't call me mom, she calls me by my first name. I am ok with it. I am NOT her mother and I cannot replace her mother. I guess I am just the bonus.

[singedwingangel]

Feb. 12, 2008 at 7:33 PM Growing up in a situation where my dad was the absentee parent I called my stepdad dad. but I also called my dad when he was around he knew there was not that bond. However I agre with your words 100% My mom is my mom and that is that my stepmom was never called mom by me she was called ethel although currently she is not even called that due to my fathers passing and her trying to outdo my sisters and i of any of our inheritance....

[adonia]

Feb. 27, 2008 at 11:14 AM kids and the involved adults have to make that choice together.  NEVER  force a child to call a step parent mom or dad.  but also let them know that it's okay to care for that person.  to have a healthy relationship they have know that.  and if they do CHOOSE to call that person mom (or dad) it's not an affront to you.  it's simply a way of acknowledging their bond with that person.

[cina0306]

Mar. 7, 2008 at 9:16 PM Wow! I totally agree with you.  My sister-in-law has been with 3 different men (2 outside of her babies daddy), and all of them she has forced my niece to call them dad.  I told her that she is going to confuse her with all these men that walk in and out of her life.  They are not her father and just her mom's boyfriends.  The little girl is only 6.  I know this is more extreme, but I never agreed with a child having to be forced to call some other person that is not biologically theres mom or dad.  Adoption is always an exceptional reason to have them to do that, because they don't have parents other than them.