Im finding the older my son gets there is this hidden wall emerging. My son Is 14 and hardly ever sees or even wants to be with his father...Im concerned about my role as His Mother and  being effective  in my raise him as a wise Young Man. I am female and well wonder  what can I do  as a  MOM to  raise  him into a Man. Looking for advice! thanks!

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Mar. 9, 2007 at 1:01 AM thanks for the tips and help

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Mar. 9, 2007 at 1:12 AM My hubby's mom rasied four man on her own.  The oldest is almost 40 the youngest is in his late twenties.  She took all four boys to America and started her life over by herself never got remarried or invited man over to the house.  He introduced me to his mom on our first date,  his daddy is alive and well I know because the first and only time I saw him was for our wedding.  I shared thise with you because I don't think you should  worry too much because sound like you did a great job raising him for 14 years with or with out help.  Keep it up.

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Mar. 9, 2007 at 1:17 AM I think we all worry about things like that. I was a single mom with my first boy. He is now ten and I really think there are things that I can't teach him and relate to. But I just let my best logic lead me and I hope I am doing right by him. I hope we can continue to have a good relationship into the teen years. My daughter is 18 and we have a good relationship and always have.  Good luck and I'm sure you will do a better job than you think you will. We are always harder on ourselves.

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Mar. 13, 2007 at 10:12 AM My oldest son is now 33 and I raised him as a single when I was in my early 20s to 30 something! He turned out to be a nice young man, good husband and now new dad!! Raise a son the way you would any other child! With good manners and most importantly good morals!!

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Mar. 25, 2007 at 7:33 AM I think you are already doing an amazing job. The fact that you care so much for him is important. I was a single mom for 3 years and let me tell you even though it was a girl I still know what you mean by needing a father figure. But sometimes "we" think that they need one so badly. The reality is it's possible your everything he needs and all he wants right now. Sometimes we need to listen to the child...because he may be secure with having you only. And this is okay. It should give you a warm fuzzy feeling inside...telling you your doing right for him.

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May. 3, 2007 at 12:38 AM I was a single mom for a time before remarriage and the important thing with boys of that age group is that you show them loads of love, and also find a relative or someone Male that you trust to mentor him and do guy things with if his dad is not in the picture. I also had sometime out of work due to painful condition and this also plays into mothering of course and can be so hard. I still suffer with days that are painful and all that goes along with not knowing from day to day how you might feel. Its great that you get out into the community and are involved it helps if for no other reason than to take your mind off yourself. My son is now raised and although a tough teen he is in the Air-force and married, He turned out just fine as your son will as well I'm sure.

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