I finally left the abusive bastard!!*Updated*

[dannyboysmommy]

I left him for good on Sunday. I have been saving loose change and dollar bills for months, hiding them in my son's toys, books, and anywhere else I know he wouldn't look. On sunday he told me (for the thousandth time) that if I didn't like the way he treated me I could pack my shit and get the hell out. Well little did he know that I had enough money to put in the gas tank and leave, and that is exactly what I did. I packed my car with as much of my son's and my shit as I could fit, and hauled ass outta there. I feel so free without him. I haven't smiled this much in I don't know how long. The best part, I ALREADY FOUND A JOB! I started today and it's great, I think I'll like working there. I'm staying with my parent's until I can find a place. I have an appointment with social services next week to get some assistance until I can get on my feet.

I should have left that abusive SOB years ago, I would have had I'd known it would feel this great. I don't have to worry about being woken up in the middle of the night by some drunk pissing on something. No body wakes me up in the morning screaming at me because he misplaced something while drunk the nigth before. I haven't been called a stupid worthless cunt in days. This is the most sunlight and fresh air my son and I have gotten in over a year. I can walk outside when ever I want to! You have no idea how wonderful it is to do that until you can't. We spend our afternoons in the back yard playing in the grass. Danny said his first real word, unfortunately the word was "shit" *sigh* oh well, we are away from such influences now. Hopefully we will break him of that habit.

We are heading up saturday with a uhaul for all my stuff, I'm taking EVERYTHING. (it was all mine to begin with) I'm taking my huge Dad and brother with me, I don't think the bastard will have the guts to show up. (not that he could cuz I took my car with me...talk about karma!)

The day I left, the entire 2 hour drive here I listened to "life is beautiful" by Sixx:am. If you haven't heard of that song look it up, it's a great song. I think my life will be beautiful from now on.

Wish me luck! 

**Update!!**

Off and on for the last year and a half he has been trying to convince me to take him back, and I have LAUGHED in his face EVERY time!! Right next door to that deli I was working at is a bar with a VERY cute bartender. I met him one night when I took a food delivery over to him. He and I will celebrate our 2 year anniversary in March! He has mentioned marrage but right now I'm in college full time studying to become a nurse midwife/lactation consultant. My son and I live just the 2 of us in the cutest apartment and we couldn't be happier! He's dad moved closer to us last year so he could take Danny on the weekends. He's a much better father then he was husband. I have to say leaving that ass hole was the best thing I have ever done....after having my son, that is.

[ZMOM21]

Feb. 13, 2008 at 1:00 AM whoa!! you go gurl! Im glad that you got you and your son out of that kind of sitation- just keep your head up and do alot of praying because only the good Lord up above can take you where you need to go now!!! Hugs~

[Pauls_Mom010108]

Feb. 13, 2008 at 1:02 AM It's always awesome to see one of these posts. Good for you! Make sure the two of you are safe and that you document everything you can, and get testimony from people who have seen him being abusive as well!

[funnymummy22]

Feb. 13, 2008 at 1:02 AM

GOOD FOR YOU!!!!! Please remember that abuse is a cycle.  He will come back BEGGING and pleading saying he's changed, but it will NOT END.  You are MUCH better off if you are now smiling.  Good luck with the new job, good luck with social services, wic and everything!

listen to Stronger- by Christina Aguleria (or however its spelled) its very powerful!!  GOOD LUCK MAMMA!

[Luvmykiddios]

Feb. 13, 2008 at 1:04 AM

STAY SAFE AND DONT GO BACK TO A MAN WHO ABUSES YOU.. DREAM AND LOVE AGAIN.... DONT GO BACK AND STAY FOCUSED ON THE FUTURE ... A FUTURE THAT DOES NOT CONSIST OF ABUSE.. YOU DESERVE TO BE LOVED AND YOUR CHILDREN DESERVE A SAFE HOME AND A LOVING AND CARING HOME.. GOOD LUCK TO YOU

[Lena240]

Feb. 13, 2008 at 1:06 AM

Leaving him you will find a part of you that you lost. Best of Luck to you. Be Safe and no matter what when he comes up with, all the sweet words and promises that he will change. Make sure you see right through him. You have a beautiful boy. Be strong.

[dannyboysmommy]

Feb. 13, 2008 at 1:10 AM

I don't think he will beg me to come back, but we will see. I've "left" a couple of times and each time within a day he's calling. I've talked to him several times and not once has he said anything like that, nor has he said he's sorry, which I couldn't care less about anyway.

Stronger is a great song, another one I thought of that applies is My Give a Damn's Busted.

(Original Poster)

[SDbabe]

Feb. 13, 2008 at 1:10 AM

Good for you!  I voted this popular because I think that it's important for other women in this kind of situation to see that they can leave.

[SAMNMAYASMOM]

Feb. 13, 2008 at 1:18 AM CONGRATULATIONS!!! you see? we really dont need men!!! you can do it. its not as hard as some people think.

[rosepetal209]

Feb. 13, 2008 at 1:49 AM OMG, good for you! Your strength is so amazing! Chin up, it only gets better

[Pauls_Mom010108]

Feb. 13, 2008 at 2:33 AM The song is actually called "Fighter" I think. It's great!