Valentine's Day + Chocolate + Sexy Pics = NO NOOKY?

[MegaMamaTX]

Alright I dont get it.

2 weeks ago I started taking some sexy pics of myself to give to my hubby on Valentine's Day. I started early because I knew it would take several sessions before I would get many pics that I felt comfortably giving him. For every 1 I gave him, there were probably 50 I didnt. But anwayy, back to topic.

So last week, all this sexy pics was getting me in the mood a lot. I initiated sex and got a great response. But the rest of the week, he turned me down by saying he was "sore" from that one night. Okay, so I blew it off and thought okay, Valentine's Day is coming up... I'l lleave him alone.

And so Valentine's Day arrived. I took hubby his present at lunch so that he would have the rest of the day to look at the pictures and get ready for our night.  When he got home, he confessed that he told his co-workers that I gave him sexy pics. They didnt believe him and so showed one to his co-workers (women) who all loved it and told him they thought it was really sexy. He said he loved that pic especially and thought about getting it tattooed on his arm (he wants a sleeve).

While I was cooking dinner for the girls, I bent over and he touched me, making me think that we were thinking the same thing. But the night sure didnt turn out the way I thought it would. He more or less went to bed with the nuts and candy I bought him instead of me. I was laying right next to him in a sexy outfit and nothing. Not a caress, not a look, nothing. And once he was snoring, I cried myself to sleep.

My feeling are hurt. Ive never given sexy pics to anyone before. And Im a big girl... so its not like this was easy for me. I had to get up the courage to do it, find poses that were sexy for me, and I was proud of them. I mean, Ive been dieting for a few weeks now and have lost a bit of weight. My tummy is more toned and noticably smaller.  But all this wasnt enough for him to want me.

Right now I just feel fat and unattractive.

 ***************** UPDATE *******************

I tyold him a little while ago that he hurt my feelings by not taking note of my advances and that I was left feeling like my efforts didnt matter. He apologized and called himself dense. That made me feel a little better. But, the feelings are still raw. When I think of it, I cant help but tear up. I know I just need to choke these down and use it as motivation to keep on dieting and exercising and doing my thing. Eventually maybe he'll like what he sees.

[KaidaMidnight]

Feb. 15, 2008 at 10:23 AM **hugs**   

[3starmomma]

Feb. 15, 2008 at 10:23 AM Stay focused on the weight loss, as for your hubby, he's a man, don't take it personal they have no clue.  You are a beautiful woman.  If loosing weight is whats important to you make sure your doing it only for you not to look sexy for him.  Men don't see it when they have it only when they don't  Good Luck!

[spunkymomof3]

Feb. 15, 2008 at 10:24 AM I am sorry.  We just did cards for V-Day because we had already bought each other gifts.  I am sorry you did not get the response you wanted. I am sure your pictures looked great.  I have thought about doing them before but I did not even know where to start. 

[theQueenB]

Feb. 15, 2008 at 10:52 AM Its ok Meg, I know how you must feel!! Dont worry.... like the lady above said...hes a man which means hes an idiot by nature. So is mine!! Stay confident-you do look great!! have you told him how that made you feel that night?

[dulcemomma]

Feb. 15, 2008 at 10:54 AM OMG! I did sexy pics for my hubby too. Then, he tried to fall asleep on the couch. Hell NO! I dragged his ass to the bedroom and i had to initiate all the love making. Kinda sucked because a woman really just wants to be the object of affection at times. Oh well, I got mine! LOL! Anyway, maybe this weekend you can tell him how you feel. Men are dorks. I bet your pictures were lovely. I am so proud of you. keep up the weight loss and you will fell better about yourself more and more each day. {{{HUGS}}}

[nojomommy07]

Feb. 15, 2008 at 11:52 AM

Same story in this house, hun.  I did my pics because you inspired me to (we belong to the same group).  He saw them previously ( I wanted him to pick the ones he liked and I'd just print those).  Yesterday evening went over like a lead balloon.  He was crabby and cranky and he didn't want to do our normal tradition of chocolate fondue after the kids were asleep.  He was being a jerk.  I think that guys don't get it, like some of the other ladies said.  He knew how much it took for me to take pics like that for him....after the anger subsided last night, he told me so.  He tried to explain his reasoning, but my feelings were already hurt.  Hugs!  Hopefully one day, they will all get a clue.

[MommaHubbard]

Feb. 15, 2008 at 12:34 PM

I'm sure you looked hot in your pics! Just remember to stay confident-that's the sexiest trait of all! Of course he still thinks your attractive! Men are stupid. Everyone goes through this kind-of stuff. Hopefully, he will respond to your discussion with actions and not just the words, "I'm so dense." That will make-up for his mistake. It is awesome that you've lost weight! My DH has hard time losing it too. I think that as long as you are happy with you, that's all that really matters. Good luck and stay focused on being healthy for your family and for yourself!