Frustrated.

[graciejoe]

 It really bothers me that I keep seeing posts from other moms that are complaining about how selfish their husbands are and how they need to grow up because they like to play video games or don't help around the house as much as their wives think they should or what ever other reason.  And then I turn around and see the same people talking about spending so much money on purses or shoes and how much they deserve those things.  I guess I just feel like there's something of a double standard there.  It's like people are saying their husbands need to grow up and not do these things, but since he won't I'm just going to be just as selfish and do what I want to do regardless of what he thinks.  I think we've forgotten what marriage is about.  I think people have forgotten what love is.  Love isn't about getting what I want.  It's about doing what you think is best for the other person involved.  Love is about what I can do for you, not what you can do for me.

[Basshadow]

Feb. 19, 2008 at 9:42 PM I think you are completely and utterly right!! And you should know as it seems your life is your family and it looks like you are doing a wonderful job! Congrats on the little one on the way!

[notcrazy]

Feb. 20, 2008 at 5:59 PM so how do you teach that to your kids and maybe just as importantly teach them that they should find a partner that feels the same way.  This is probably the basis for most divorces. 

[graciejoe]

Feb. 21, 2008 at 1:50 PM I think a great place to start teaching our children about love is the bible.  To begin with, I don't think there's any greater love story then the love of God for the Hebrew people.  These are the people he chose to love.  I think that's a key.  I don't believe that people fall into love, I believe you jump into it.  It's a decision that we make to love somebody.  1Corinthians13:4-7 is a good foundation to build on our views of love.  I think it's even something that people who are not Christians should base their relationships.  It Just seems like commons since to me.   4Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. 5It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. 6Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. 7It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.

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[iluvcallalilies]

Feb. 24, 2008 at 1:30 PM well put!

[mathgirl]

Mar. 14, 2008 at 4:26 PM

Well said. Why would a husband come home to sit and  play video games? Maybe he's tired of being yelled at or having to think all day at work. He can turn off his brain for a few hours. Or whatever the hobby is.

[mar6]

Mar. 24, 2008 at 11:46 PM WONDERFUL. YOU SURELY HAVE THE RECIPE FOR A GREAT MARRIAGE AND A WONDERFUL LIFE IN CHRIST. GOD BLESS YOU AND YOUR WONDERFUL FAMILY.

[SweetBee253]

Mar. 26, 2008 at 11:11 AM

I agree . . .

But then again, I don't bitch when he plays his games . . . I know he needs to chill out after work for a lil while . . .  and he does help out with the lil 1 as much as he can . . . mommy feeds . . .  daddy burps n rocks . . .  changes are done together or more or less shared equally . . . . I do let him sleep at night, because I know he has to get up for work in the morning . . . but if she is extra fussy and he wakes up . . . then he usually gets up to keep me company . . . so with all that in mind . . .  OF COURSE he can play a game or 2 . . . well I might even join him for some tetris LoL . . .

I do not believe the whole, 'just because you do this, I'll do that' philosophy . . . that gets you nowhere in the long run, just more n more frustrations and built up credit cards ;o)

 WELL SAID . .

B

[llmom1921]

Apr. 1, 2008 at 2:37 AM I totally agree owth you.  Sure, I complaine about my  DH from time to time, but I am not out try to play "an eye for an eye" type of game with him.  I've noticed some of the ladies need to learn a little tolerance!