Okay, deep breathe.  I really need a somewhat safe place to post so here goes.  I'm two week into the latest of DH's endless series of world tours.  Of course they are only only doing the US, but having been together nearly 20 years, I've been down this block before.  Us then a few weeks off then Europe (summer festivals, you know)then another break before Japan New Zealand and Australia.  

He's been a touring musician between 1/3-1/2 of the time that we have been married.  I've always been supportive up until the last tour.  See,  the kids are really having a tough time with it.  They try to understand, but in the end, they just want to see and be with Dad.  Not seeing him for 8-12 weeks on end is really hard.  Three kids crying for Dad and I can't do anything to help that.   He need to get a new laptop so we can use Skype like I do with my Mom and Dad.  They now winter in Florida and are my main support staff so to speak.  Well, since the Asperger's diagnosis, thankfully, our DD has trained support staff.    Mom and Dad return in May this year, later than usual.  I'm afraid that my pond business will suffer a bit this year.  My Mom helps me so much.  Things with Dad are much better since he has come to understand that there is a neurological reason for some issues with our oldest.  Now he's been very understanding and helpful.

So here we are at this familar place in the road again. 

breathe, just breathe...it'll all fall into place.


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Feb. 20, 2008 at 9:53 AM I am sorry that he is gone so much. Being a musician's wife has to be hard. Their schedules are so demanding, and it feels like there is never any time for family. I don't envy anyone famous because of that, they do not have a normal life , and that has to be hard. Hang in there, he will be home soon.

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Jul. 20, 2008 at 4:43 PM

 It does sound like your kids are having trouble coping. I guess there are many children who have to learn to cope with absentee fathers.  I know it must be stressful for you to try and appease them in dads place, but console yourself with knowing he is out there making a living. In todays economy there is a lot to be said about that. Cheer yourself dear, and lean on mom.  Hang in there and know I'll keep good thoughts for you and your children, and safe travel , quick return home of your hubby.

Many Blessings!

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