when I got the courage to leave a abusive marriage

[huntermae]

I have been married for 7 years and 5 out of them 7 years my husband was mental and physical abusing me .I lost two of my  three chidren because of the abuse.So he had been telling me to leave him and that is just what I did ,it was and is hard but I know  now that  my daughter and myself are 100% betteroffwith out him. So that there is when I surprised myself and my family

[bluiidmommy]

Feb. 23, 2008 at 8:37 PM Good for you!  I wish more wives would get the courage to do that.

[Helen]

Feb. 23, 2008 at 8:38 PM

[daisyb]

Feb. 23, 2008 at 8:41 PM

    Thank Goodness, your daughter & yourself are Safe now! It does take Alot of courage to leave a Abusive relationship- So, you should also be Very Proud of Yourself! Good Luck & Take Care

[AlohaWahine]

Feb. 23, 2008 at 9:41 PM

[Alaskarose]

Feb. 23, 2008 at 10:11 PM

CONGRATULATIONS!!! It took me 25 yeaors.

I had the state in and out of my house, he would get arrested and somehow fanagle out.

We had broken wind shields, holes in our walls, I had a broken jaw. We had no groceries, he wouldn't pay bills, wouldn't let any of my friendos come over or call, I became pretty good at lying and hiding most things, therefore I taught my children exactly what I hadn't intended. {at the end, he was going after the children, that is wht it took for me to draw the line} He tried to cause me to have miscarriages, forced me to sign adoption papers on two of my sons [thankfully they were my best friends and CHRISTian]

 

They didn't learn hadn't learned how a husband or father shouhld treat his family. They learned bad words, reasons not to tell things, how to steal, and lie.

I thought I was doing it for them, and because I took my wedding vows seriously. It took a lot for me to realize that the GOD I had let sit on the back burner was opening door after door for me to leave the very man that was becoming my god. He is still trying to be the control freak; however my new husband JESUS is much better at providing. It does get easier.

I loaded the children, the pets and myself in a rental car, and drove across country in two days this past summer to go back to school and get away from him and his mom! He still calls the shots, he thinks. But this week I secured a restraining order! Changed my phone number and am looking for another place. He says he will kill us before he pays any support, thats okay, GOD provides. It's tight but we are close. Those of us still left. My children would go to their grave for me as I would them.

I made up my mind and forsaken all others decided I had put my life on hold for him for way too long.

I surprised myself by jumping out on faith renting a car, driving across country and enrolling in school 3000 miles from any family (had to leave drama central)

 

[gustinebrat]

Feb. 23, 2008 at 10:14 PM i am glad that you left and changed your life iam here i was in the same situation when i was married at 28 julie

[darcy2]

Feb. 23, 2008 at 10:43 PM

I work as a domestic violence victim's advocate, and I would like to say that I am proud of you and stay strong. You are right. It is not easy going it alone at first, but it does get easier in time.