I am really trying not to be as pissed off as I am right now. But here's the situation. My husband and I let his little sister use our Ford Explorer for free recently cause she needed a vehicle and hers had expired tags, also her license was suspended. But she has two young boys and a job and had to get around. The plan was that she was going to buy it after she received her tax return. Fast forward to now when we had an intervention for her, she is going to rehab and living with her mother and doing what she needs to do in order to keep the support of her family. Now, I drive her around almost everyday to her meetings and to pickup and drop off her kid up at school and so forth. Well, now she says she is NOT buying the truck because she wont be able to afford insurance on it. She is getting like $4,000.00 back. Now I am pissed because while she was using our truck she trashed it up on the inside, her kids wrote on the interior with a ball point pen, it stunk and has to be thoroughly cleaned out, and who has to do all that cleaning? or at least pay for it? US! She isn't taking any responsibility for the damage she has done to it. Don't get me wrong, it runs the same (I think) but it pisses me off because we are the ones who have to get it cleaned and fix it up to sell it (which we need the money for us to move). I am really trying to deal with these demons that are telling me to be angry and that this is not right and whatever, I deal with Depression and it can be very difficult to maintain my emotions. So I am trying to remember the serenity prayer and calm down by blogging. Oh Lord, give me the strength to accept the things i cannot change... Anyhow, I have to go pick her and her kid up now. I can't say anything to her cause it will come out wring and cause huge waves in the family. So I will just keep my mouth shut,. Any words of encouragement would really help me right now.

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Feb. 27, 2008 at 11:20 AM

I'm sorry she's being so irresponsible.  It's very frustrating when family members act like that.  I guess you have to just learn from it.  The lesson being that you can't let her borrow expensive things like cars.  If she wants to buy it from you then she can have it when it's paid for.  That way you don't get stuck in the situation that you're in now.  Next time she needs help with a vehicle, you'll know better.  I would be mad too.  You're doing better than I would be.  I probabaly would have gone off on her.  So you should be proud of yourself that you have enough self control to hold your tongue.  I hope your day gets better.

Take care.

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Feb. 27, 2008 at 3:42 PM Oh man, what a situation. Girl, you have alot of strength! I understand the turmoil it would create and you have to keep your sanity through this all, but if it were me, I would have set her straight! If she is not buying the vehicle, then she should be responsible for the damage that was done while in her possesion. Only fair, right? Over and over again it sounds like you and your family is getting the short end of the stick with this girl. The more things go one like this, she is going to expect that people are just going to pick up after her and she doesn't have to take responsibilty. Is her mom helping you out at all? Can you stop doing favors? This is very tough. Hang in there! :) "The COURAGE to change the things I can, and the WISDOM to know the difference." :)

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Jan. 5, 2014 at 11:13 PM

Get a grip, she's having a rough life if she's having to go to rehab.  Hve you been to rehab and gone through that life, I dont think so by the way you talk.  And why are you talking it out on those poor little boys, they had nothing to do with this.  If you can't do something for family, then re-evaluate your road to glory.

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