Why?

[purpleducky]

Why is it that most people view autism as a death sentence or that it is the end of the world if someone has it? Why is it that these people treat their children like they are diseased or something instead of doing the best they can to treat the children like normal children and help them adapt to life? Why have such a negative view on life just because of one little thing? And why do moms of mercury poisoned children push for a label of autism instead of pushing schools to recognize mercury poisoning? Why do they not see that they are not the same? Why do they not realize that in actuality the majority of autistic children are not poisoned?

A test to see if your child is truly autistic or just poisoned is very easy to perform, piss the child off. What does he or she do? A truly autisitic child will have a meltdown and will demonstrate nearly super-human strength. That is something needs to be controlled but that has to be taught to the child. (Lately I have just been reminded of all the things my sister, son and husband's neice did and do when very mad). However, this is probably something that you will not see on any autism support website (I don't honestly know because I don't go to those sites because they irrate me).

I am not trying to offend anyone. Just venting a bit.

[Sylbroyles]

Feb. 28, 2008 at 8:27 AM

its not a death sentence.  my son has forgotten all about his water obsession with the playstation.  now he plays lego star wars and now shrek. 

who says my son can't retell a story?  just ask him about what comes next in his game and he can tell you!

He is starting to read.  Yeah, Kindergarten words.

I push for the label just to get services.   some people don't get that until they go to get them and realize w/o that one, you get nothing.

My son had been on the waiting list for 2 ys for behavioural therapy at UCDD.  We finally did the intake assesment and hope to start next month.  Every Saturday morning for 2 1/2 hours of ABA for free.  it could last up to 2 yrs.

[Alynn74]

Feb. 28, 2008 at 12:12 PM

Autism is not a death sentence! But you can't change how people feel. It is sad to me because instead of truly focusing on the child they are focusing on the autism. I look at it as they are still going through the grief process. I remember when I just felt so hopeless about my kids being able to have a normal life. But what's normal anyway anymore?! I just read a post from a women who invited her hubby's girlfriend to live with them! They "share" her husband now!!

I'm not sure exactly what snapped me out of the negative  and made me focus on the positive. I just saw how people were looking at my daughter one day and I was instantly pissed!  Then I was so ashamed because I had looked at her the same way- as a poor victim. She's not! And neither are my other kids!  Their life is good and they are happy and thriving! That's what's important. I don't care about "normal"- I prefer HAPPY!!!!!