The Way I Reconnected with My Porn Addicted Man!!

[mama_dove]

A few weeks ago I found out that I am once again pregnant... I am excited very excited because it's the first time I have been this secure in a relationship. I thought I had a problem though when instead of coming to bed my man would run to the computer and look at porn I started feeling like crap and wondered "why doesn't he want to be with me? why would he look at other women when he has a hot blooded female in the room willing to be the person he is looking at?"

Well my answer came after reading a blog titled PORN: Sex = Loves or kinda. I read this and it was like a light bulb went off in my head. So the next night when the kiddos were safe in bed and he was on the computer looking stuff up I went in and sat on his lap and told him I have something I want to find and I punched in Jenna Jameson's name and "together" we picked out vidoes we could watch. Then he went to looking at pictures of naked girls while I was on his lap and so I turned the tables on him and started looking up pictures of hot guys and so it turned in to a sort of war between us laughing and looking together. His face was so happy and I was spending time with him.  I went to bed that night on my own and slept pretty good and  the next day I took it upon myself to go one step further. I started by going into youtube and looking up "lapdances" and started watching the videos then I went into my music setion and picked out some great dancing music and put what I had learned into actions. It was HARD! But I ended up sweating and feeling great about myself and by the end of the day after practicing when the boys were down for their naps I had this routine mapped out in my head.

That night 8 o clock rolled around and I put the boys to bed and for some reason NONE of them threw a tantrum or wanted this or that I was in my room by 8:15 and I laid down and here came my man he had worked on a CD full of beats the night before and asked if I would listen to them with him so I did and we discussed which were his favorites and I got into it all... He was REALLY happy I was paying attention to something he really liked. When we were done with the CD he said "Lets watch a movie" and he put one in. To my surprise it was a porno showing gurls together and instead of being embarrassed like he thought I would be it turned him on to know that I was paying attention even telling him okay this one is my girlfriend and then ignoring him! By the time we were a quarter of a way through the movie I was on my way to being a happy camper for the rest of the night ;)

I guess the point I am trying to make is this: Open up to your partner there were things I still had not told him because I thought he would be turned off my sexual desires turns out those desires were what he was looking for the whole time! He wanted to see "me"  and he did! He watched and he participated and well I am so much more secure then I was even 3 days ago I no longer have to hide my sexual feelings~ I am more open with him~ I am having the time of my life!! And by the way I am still working on that lapdance routine but I know I am going to knock his socks off when I get it finished. Find something to connect about its soooo worth the effort!! Don't get mad join him.

Thanks and girls take care of yourselfs and it will all be okay!

 

[MomtoDuck]

Feb. 29, 2008 at 11:53 AM Yeah! Congrats! LOL, maybe you should take up belly dancing since your preggo now! Did you know belly danicing originally came about as a form of "exercise" to prepare the body for childbirth? A rather beautiful exercise in my opinion. Maybe that will help you keep the romance going as your belly grows.