Why most of my friends are guys....

[Happy_at_home]

It is very unusual, especially for a married woman, to be close friends with a guy--or in my case guys. Sure I have girl friends but I'm not nearly as close to most of them as I am to "the guys".

Now before you start thinking that I must party alot or lead a wild life style to have most of my friends be men let me expain a few things. I'm not a big partier, never have been and never will be. I also am totally committed to my husband. I have fairly conservative morals and am a Christian. So why do I hang out with them?

Well, it started out when my hubby and I were dating. I would hang out with him and his friends upon occassion. Well, after highschool I didn't put forth the effort it took to maintain my friendships from highschool and some of his friends moved to the same city we moved to after our wedding. A lot easier to stay in touch with someone who lives near you. They were always "my husband's" friends. I got along with them but they still acted like teenagers and I wanted to move past that. I stopped hanging out with them for a few years. During that time we moved away from them and as my husband's contact with them decreased I realized I didn't mind hanging out with them so much. With them I can be sarcastic and give them a hard time without worrying about hurting feelings and they reciprocate.

We only see them a few times a year now but we keep in touch through the internet. I am usually the one that gets the ball rolling for us to get together. I enjoy not having to be "mom" for an evening or having to worry about what other people think of me. They like me for me. They know who I was and who I've become. They know a part of me that I'm not comfortable letting alot of people see: the tomboy side, the sarcastic part of me, the part of me that enjoys talking about ideas instead of just things or people. Yeah, we get into some pretty heavy conversations like sex, marriage, religion, politics, etc. but it's good conversation. We can all disagree and not like why the other person disagrees but in the end we are still friends and I think we all know that.

Within the last couple of years they have stopped being "my husband's" friends and have become "our" friends. I know that I could count on them to come through for me if I needed them just like my husband could. It makes me feel good that I have a group of friends that are there regardless, even if they are "the guys".