yup the hubby again

[Valerie4882]

Hi ladies....well I just feel so alone right now.  It feels like the marriage I am in has lost the love it once had.  For starters I know I have done the wrong thing by keeping things that bother me, well bottled up.  It eventually explodes.  But then also the husband does not help.  Every time I get mad it is over the same thing.  And just last week he walked out on us and didn't call for a week.  I asked him why he did that and didn't even respond to an email.  He said because he thought I was still mad and that everything I was complaining about was bullshit.  That really got me mad.  How are you not going to call to see if you son is OK because he thinks I am mad?  And he also said he didn't respond to my email because he didn't want to deal with it.  WTF??!!!  If something is wrong it isn't going to go away because you ignore it.  And if something is wrong with your wife wouldn't you want to heal the situation?  And the last thing that bothers me is that he never says thank you to my parents when they help us out.  When his parents do I always say thank you.  It is politie and the right thing to do.  When I told him my dad assembled my son's crib (I was totally surprised...I guess he got bored babysitting) he didn't say anything.  I had to force him to call and say thank you.  What is so hard about that?  He is away from home so much because he works far away.  That also puts a strain on us.  But even 6 months ago I didn't feel so empty inside.  The last fight really hurt me inside.  Like I feel nothing for him anymore.  If he tries to sit next to me I can't be around him....should I seek counseling?  I don't know what to do.

[AbbyTomsmom]

Mar. 24, 2008 at 12:07 AM Wow, he sounds a little self absorbed.  Have you told him how you feel?  If you have and he doesn't care, then I am sorry, but I wouldn't stay.  You can try counseling, but if he doesn't go, I don't see the point.  I hope the best for you.

[solarmom]

Apr. 3, 2008 at 4:38 AM

Definately seek counceling even if he won't go.  It may help you deal with your feelings.  Hugs.  If you need anything I am just 15 minutes away!  (I just always have my kids with me)

 

Tina