Seeking Advice Again

[JustCurious21]

OK, here goes. I need some more advice. This time it is relationship advice. My BD(Baby Daddy) and I were together for about 6 months and then he broke up with me on some stupid stuff. He said I slept with one of his best friends. First of all, I knew his best friend before I knew him. Secondly, his best friend is kind of on the heavy side. And if anyone knows me, they know I do not like big dudes. Look at the difference between the 2 of them (Pictures below). Not saying I could never be friends with one but relationship-wise it'll never happen. Anyway during the course of those 6 months that we were together, I fell in love. I guess all the times he was telling me he loved me was a lie because he left me. He has since moved on, but it is not that easy for me. Not even 2 weeks after we broke up, I found out I was pregnant. So, that made my feelings toward him grow stronger. But he was adamant about not getting back together. Now he has this "girlfriend" that is willing to do anything for him. She bought the baby's car seat, brought me food to eat while I was in the hospital with the baby. And it is like she is flaunting it in my face that they are together. It doesn't help that they are both telling me that they are not a couple. And it doesn't help that him and I are still sleeping together. I am even pregnant by him again. What should I do. Night after night I look at my son and cry myself to sleep. I really want to be with him, but I know the feelings are not mutual. He doesn't know that I am pregnant again. Can I please get some womanly advice?

[Southerncharmes]

Mar. 2, 2008 at 9:45 PM I would tell him but don't expect him to change. You already see what he's done for the first child and the way he acts. I wish you the very best in whatever you decide to do.  :-)  Hugs.

[jacobsmom707]

Mar. 2, 2008 at 9:47 PM First of all, stop sleeping with him.  Why are you freely giving away the goods?  He isn't committed to you and you are lowering yourself by being with him, even if you are in love with him.  I would hold him responsible for the children that he has created with you, and then I would cut him loose!

[MommySteph06]

Mar. 2, 2008 at 10:19 PM I would tell him, but don't expect anything to change. And don't be hurt when he doesn't change. Just love this baby the way you already love your son and everything will be ok. There's someone out there for you. You don't have to be with him or want to be with him...he doesn't sound like a very good catch to me anyway.

[Navymama]

Mar. 3, 2008 at 9:27 AM You have to tell him. He has fatherly rights. If you didn't tell him and he did care...there could be more trouble then you want. DO NOT ABORT. I don't believe in abortion especially in instances like this. You knew you could get pregnant by him and you didn't do anything to stop it. So if you don't want the baby, give it up for adoption to a family who wants a baby to love.

[ke22]

Mar. 27, 2008 at 8:27 PM Wow this is very surprising you play friendly n he lying to my face i'm lovin it