Question: How do you feel about kid party invitations that ask for donations in lieu of gifts? (any age child 1-17)


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What would you think if you were invited to a birthday party of any age child where the invitation said something like "In lieu of gifts, please donate to "XYZ Charity."  ??

 Example:  Your friend, who lives a financially comfortable life, has two children.  Every year on their children's birthday invitations there is a phrase that says "We are truly blessed.  In lieu of gifts, please donate dog or cat food to [local no-kill animal shelter]." (bringing a bag of dog food or cat food to the party instead of a gift for the child)

 How does that make you feel?  Do you donate AND bring a small gift?  Just donate?  Just a gift?  Are you offended?  Do you like the idea?

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Mar. 5, 2008 at 12:34 PM I LOVE this idea. If only more people would instill charity in their children from a young age. Hmm $20 on a toy that will probably fall to the bottom of the toy box never to be seen again? Or $20 spent towards charity. Not a hard choice IMO.

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Mar. 5, 2008 at 12:35 PM I like the idea.  I would respect their wishes.

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Mar. 5, 2008 at 12:35 PM I really like the idea.  I think it's a great way to give your child the amazing gift of giving.  I have never done that for my kid's parties, but I am considering it for my children as the get older, starting with the age of 7 or 8 when they can fully appreciate the concept.  But I also think it's a good idea to start your child's life off with this sort of appreciation for giving - that way they never know the difference, it's just normal to donate to those in need on their birthday.

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Mar. 5, 2008 at 12:39 PM

Deadheadjen, I like your thinking - why add to their toy clutter?  I can't tell you how many birthday parties I have attended where the child got something they already had, or duplicate gifts.  What a waste - since the extra gift will probably get "regifted" anyway - why not donate to those who really need it.

**BTW - when I get an invite like that, I usually respect their wishes and make the donations AND buy the child an age appropriate book.  Donate to their charity and give them the gift of reading.  :)

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Mar. 21, 2008 at 11:57 AM I like the idea too, especially if the family were financially comfortable and the children were not in need.  I know I have a cousin whose husband lost his job, and my grandmother asked for to give clothes for the children's birthday.  Even though I am a single mom, my kids are not needy.  They go to a private school on scholarship and I find a way for them to have a lot of advantages.  So I think that is a wonderful idea, I like instilling the sense of giving to those less fortunate.  Even though we do not have near what their friends at school have, I always point out all of what we DO have, and that there are those kids who have nothing.  We always do the Operation Christmas Child, and a lot of other things like that even if it means less for us.  I like the book idea, I am a teacher, and I think giving books to donate is a good idea too.

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