Can't figure him out!

[zenimcruz]

A couple of months ago our power company had raised the rates.  It has really taken a toll on us with the big increase.  I really didn't think it was going to be such a big difference.  Let's just say that what use to cost us at the most $289 is now costing us $598.  We never did anything different to change the amount of power used....I didn't think it was going to go that high.  Anyway, I no longer do my laundry at home....drying's too expensive.  It wouldn't matter if I change to gas...I'd have to buy gas also and that has gone up too.  We've cut down on having our a/c on and it has made a difference in our bill.

Anyway, my DH wants me to find/get a job.  It's getting uncomfortable for him that money is very tight now.  Really to me and my kids, they say that dad just waste his money on buying cigarettes and beer and going out....and it's not occasionally, he wants to do that all the time. 

Well,  I have put in applications/resumes every week for the past couple of months.....about 2 a week sometimes 3.....there was one day I turned in 7.....whatever openings I find listed online and in the paper.  Some will call for interview and some I don't hear from....some of them or most of them have "NO PHONE CALLS PLEASE"...they tell you they'll call if not we'll receive something in the mail saying that they found someone else to fill the position.  Well, there was one that I got and he (my DH) said he didn't want me to take that job.....I told him let me just take it until something better comes along, but he still didn't want....so, there went one.  Again, another that I feel I might get especially after I do my follow-up calls, he didn't want that either. I started wondering....WHAT THE WORLD DOES THIS GUY WANT!  I can't just jump into a high paying position just like that especially after not working over 5 years and 10 years before that.  Everytime now our arguements are always about me finding a job and money.  He gets at me about getting up from my *ss and looking for a job...which like I said I do every week...well, everyday I look at the ads/announcements and when I see something listed that I can apply for, I do it....so there are times I do apply almost everyday....depends cuz sometimes there the same listings.

Well, I can't figure out my DH.  Does he want me to work or does he want me to stay home and continue doing all the things us SAHM do.....which is more than some working mothers out there.  WHAT DO YOU THINK?

[Krina]

Mar. 6, 2008 at 11:04 AM I wish I had some kind of advice for you but I would be just as confused as you. My first feeling is if it is a job you want then put your foot down and let him know you are taking the job. He can't be mad cause you don't have a job and then tell you no when you find one.  Good luck and tell the family we said HI!!