That's why i'm here...

[Pengy]

I do most of my blogging in myspace (http://www.myspace.com/jael1979)  but here i know i can vent as a mom, as a woman and as a soon to be EX wife...i know i need to start getting out of the shell i've been trapped for the last 4 years of marriage and get new friends, refresh my life with new people and build firendships and relationships...i want to live again...

Anyway, for starters, i am ready to divroce...i am still scared about the future and the outcome of this decision, and part of that fear is the reaction of my husband, but alas, this marriage is dead, it has been for the last 3 years...and it will be healthier to each be on our own than hating each other and snapping. I am still trying to decide whether to stay in Nashville or move to Portland, OR where my former H is more than likely going to relocate...if i stay in TN then the kids would be off to their dad's on spring break, summer break and Christmas, and i would have them most if the time, on the other hand if i move to OR then we could arrange him taking them on weekends...i wonder which would be the best option...

I am also looking to finding a job, which is going to be a challenge, and finding a nanny or daycare...ah, you know all those complications and financial stuff one has to consider when this happens...truth is, i feel overwhelmed and i sure wish i can find women who have gone through something similar and can give me some advice and encouragement because i really really need it...i would also like to start building like a momy network in my local area to get female friends and help each other...that's the only way i'm gonna survive cuz i have no family or relatives anywhere near, and my few "friends" are probably gonna get away from me as soon as i divorce, as if i was the plague...anyway...LADIES OUT THERE, I HOPE AND REALLY WISH YOU ALL HAVE A WONDERFUL DAY! God, i am looking so fwd to making contact with new people and making friends!

 

[keegansmom143]

Mar. 5, 2008 at 8:19 PM well as a mom I know how hard it is to make decisions based on whats best for you without putting your kids second. its kind of a double edged sward. If you think that you can have some sort of a decent relationship (even if its not until later) with your ex then I think your best move for starting over would be to relocate. Expecially if you really dont have anything to stay for. Or move somewhere where you have family and a support network. and friendships will develope as you get a new job, and get comfortable in your new surroundings. Just get back in touch with the things that you like and dont be afraid to put yourself out their. If you like coffee, find a cute coffee shop to "hang out" in. someone with similar interests will be hanging out their also..see where I am going with that? but keep your head up. sorry you are going to have to start over, i know it'll be tough, but if you are unhappy and fighting with your husband all the time, it will make your kids unhappy. If you are happy they will be happy as long as your put them first. hope things work out.