Hardest decision any parent can make!

[3angels2love]

As many of you already know, Kaige is a sick baby.  At the moment is doing better and should be getting out tomorrow or Wednesday.  When he does he will not be coming home to us.  He will be going home to a new family, a very close friend of mine and Nick's.  We are giving him up for adoption and feel this is the best thing to do in Kaige's best interest.  We love him and this is why we are doing it.  He needs alot of one-on-one care, something Nick nor myself can give him 24/7.  We don't care what anyone says because he is our child and we feel we are making the best decision for him.  I, in my own opinion, believe god gave me two babies at once to let me make the decision of making someone's life easier and better for him, and someone's life happier.  They family he is going to when he gets out of the hospital only lives 5 1/2 miles from us and says we can see him when ever we want.  They will take Cyris, we will have picnics, etc. to let our family spend time with him.  Please try to understand why we are doing this and realize it wasnt and easy decision and still isn't.

[GoldenLinds]

Mar. 14, 2008 at 10:51 AM I commend you. It is the most selfless act to give up your wish to be above and beyond anyone else in their lives so that they get all that they truly deserve. You are very fortunate to be able to keep him so close to you. He will never love you less for giving him the best you could.

[Mangy_Momma]

Mar. 14, 2008 at 10:52 AM

No, not an easy decision at all. But you are doing it out of his best interest, which means you are doing right by him. That's all that matters. :-)

I'm glad that he will be living so close by and that you all can still be a part of his life! 

[jana659]

Mar. 14, 2008 at 10:53 AM It sounds like Kaige's life will be better with the other family; I have a disabled child and he does take alot of one-on-one time - so much that I am homeschooling him.  You have four other children that need your attention as well - so I think you have made the right decision, no matter how hard it feels.  I'm glad Kaige and Cyrus will be able to be in each other's lives, and I hope Kaige improves.

[karriewren]

Mar. 14, 2008 at 10:54 AM I am sorry that you had to make this tough decision but i know you are only doing what you feel is best for you child. God be with you.

[angelbaby623]

Mar. 14, 2008 at 10:58 AM

I can not begin to imagine how you two are feeling and if you truly believe in your heart your doing what is best for your child then don't worry about what other's think.  I 'm glad you will still be able to see your child and both your children will get to spend time with each other. I hope you don't mind, but I will be keeping you and your family in my thoughts and prayers. I pray you feel God's Peace and Strength surrounding you.  Hugs, Kara

[ratchet3714]

Mar. 25, 2008 at 8:26 AM Wow that is a really hard decision. But if you and your husband know in your hearts you can't give him the attention he needs then it is for the better. My mom was adopted for different reasons and after finding her birth parents she realized that it was better that she was adopted. It's a good thing that you can see him too and that you know what type of family he will be going to. Are you going to let them know they are twins? It is a very selfless act and I hope all goes well with you. Even though you are not raising Kaige you will always be a mother of twins.

[annaviaclovsky]

Oct. 13, 2009 at 7:13 PM

That must have been a very hard decision for you to make. It will be good that the family lives very close to you so that yall will still be able to get to know the little guy.