Retaliation Reporting to CPS

[Emjay]

I'm really trying hard to understand how the minds of people who do this work. I'm not referring to a call to CPS when there is a genuine need for children's safety and proper care.

What I can't fathom is how anyone can try to hurt a family by reporting them to CPS out of retaliation because they're angry and this is their only means of getting back at you. They hide behind the anonymity of a hotline call knowing that their name will never be revealed.

They don't see the fear in the children's eyes when an investigator shows up unannounced at your door. The tears the children shed because they're frightened and don't understand why these people are in their home asking questions. They don't see how lives are permanently impacted from the experience even when there's no findings of abuse or neglect. 

They don't realize because they're angry and choose to retaliate in this manner that they are taking worker's time and energy away from being able to investigate real abuse/neglect in children's homes. The real victims that need someone stepping in and helping.

I've spent years advocating for the real victims in abuse/neglect. I was a voice for those children, not the parents, but the CHILDREN. I've seen things that no child should ever have to experience in their lifetime. I can assure you my chidren are well taken care of and happy.

I want YOU - the anonymous caller behind reporting me - to know I know who you are! It didn't take a genius to figure it out. Your tactic will not stop me from pursuing all avenues to see to it you're held accountable for your role in my daughter's assault. You will not bully me!

 

[sgr123]

Mar. 15, 2008 at 12:04 PM Wow Emjay, sorry some asshat did that to you.  It is awful that people feel the need to retaliate by hurting little children and their families, but if she has no regard for her own child I guess we can't expect her kind to care about others children.  It's sad and I hope everything works out for your family and her child.

[my4pinkroses]

Mar. 15, 2008 at 12:08 PM I know eactly what you mean..I had someone do somewhat the same thing... Neighbors who had their own problems took it out on my family... It was definately a very stressful time,,just remember if there is nothing wrong going on in your house you have nothing to worry about..        I hope everything works out for you...

[Lovelylis]

Mar. 15, 2008 at 12:14 PM

i know how u feel goddess!!  i can completely identify with you right now!!! if u read my blog you'll see what i'm talking about.....but i'm here for you and you can email me anytime!!!YOU ARE NOT ALONE!

 

 

much goddess love em!!! 

[LadySaphira]

Mar. 15, 2008 at 12:43 PM

I am sorry you are going through this hun.  It has happened to me also when I refused to sleep with a "family friend" 30+ years older than me,  Luckily my kids were to young to know what was going on. I think these people DO know they are wasting the workers time and there are other kids out there who truely need help, they just don't care. Their main objective is to hurt you and make your life as misserable as theirs by whatever means they deam necessary. Keep fighting the good fight, you are a great mom!

[LancesMom]

Mar. 15, 2008 at 1:44 PM

We all stand behind you Angi, and I am so sorry that someone has to hide behind a "Hotline" phone call to retaliate against you! I know you are a strong woman and will take the high road on this, as you always do! I am here to listen if you need an ear! And I have a shoulder if you need to shed a tear!

Shhh don't tell anyone, but I am also carrying a paddle in my avatar....you can use it!

[mom0f3angels]

Mar. 15, 2008 at 2:19 PM

I am so sorry that this is happening to you. I have been reported twice...By doctors! In all honesty, I don't know which is worse.

Being reported by an "unknown" individual. Or having someone call on you basically right in front of your face.

Although, both times, the reports were found to be unfounded. I had done NOTHING wrong to my kids.

Yes, it can be a real nuicance. And they will check in to your background, ask family and friends about you and your family.

In the end, as long as YOU know you have done no wrong and you can prove that, then it will be ok in the end.

[boosma]

Mar. 15, 2008 at 3:15 PM I've been in your same shoes too, and I'm sorry you and your family are having to endure such bullshit. I even posted pics of my house back then to see what the hell was wrong with it?? Anyways, I can't blame u for being angry, and if any of us are near the idiot that reported you, I'm sure we'd be happy to go kick some ass for you too! :)

[gustinebrat]

Mar. 15, 2008 at 3:49 PM i know how you feel becuase i had it happen to me cps is horriblethere is a law suit against those horrible people. i had my own life screwed up by these jerks you dont have to tell me about them they will pay in court for what they have done to mecps cost me my children they are with my exs aunt becuase of there lies and bs any questions on this emailme julie sorry this happend to you

[angel28]

Mar. 15, 2008 at 5:24 PM Oh emjay. I'm sorry to hear this has happend to u and ur family. That person had no right to do what she did. Hang in there girl. were all hear for u. We love u.

[JosieMarie]

Mar. 15, 2008 at 5:46 PM

Oh, Emjay.  I wish I cold say something to make you feel better, but I have no words of true comfort for you.  I wish I could make all your troubles go away, make your daughter all better, and tell the whole world to be nice to you.  Unfortunately, I can't make it happen like that.  What I can do is tell you that,like many others, I'm here for you to lean on.  My shoulders can handle a good crying jag, even my virtual/cyber shoulders.

On the other hand, do you have ANY idea how hard it is to get barrels of tar in Minnesota in March?  Feathers, I can find in an over-abundance, but tar....that's a tough order.  Kick some butt and take some names Emjay, I'm right behind you.

Lots of Goddess love and hugs.