I'm really trying hard to understand how the minds of people who do this work. I'm not referring to a call to CPS when there is a genuine need for children's safety and proper care.

What I can't fathom is how anyone can try to hurt a family by reporting them to CPS out of retaliation because they're angry and this is their only means of getting back at you. They hide behind the anonymity of a hotline call knowing that their name will never be revealed.

They don't see the fear in the children's eyes when an investigator shows up unannounced at your door. The tears the children shed because they're frightened and don't understand why these people are in their home asking questions. They don't see how lives are permanently impacted from the experience even when there's no findings of abuse or neglect. 

They don't realize because they're angry and choose to retaliate in this manner that they are taking worker's time and energy away from being able to investigate real abuse/neglect in children's homes. The real victims that need someone stepping in and helping.

I've spent years advocating for the real victims in abuse/neglect. I was a voice for those children, not the parents, but the CHILDREN. I've seen things that no child should ever have to experience in their lifetime. I can assure you my chidren are well taken care of and happy.

I want YOU - the anonymous caller behind reporting me - to know I know who you are! It didn't take a genius to figure it out. Your tactic will not stop me from pursuing all avenues to see to it you're held accountable for your role in my daughter's assault. You will not bully me!


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Mar. 15, 2008 at 5:54 PM I'm so sorry for all the crap you're being dealt. It's so unfair that in your attempts to protect your daughter's safety and good name, that there are people who would stoop so low as to tell lies about you to distract from the real issue. I'm glad you won't be bullied. You are one of the strongest women I know and I know you will fight tooth and nail for your family. I'm behind you my friend. If there is anything you need, please ask.

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Mar. 15, 2008 at 6:02 PM That they would stoop so low as to call is simply unbelievable.  My dad did this to me when my son was two, very fortunate he'll never have to know about it.  My thoughts are with you guys as you go through this

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Mar. 15, 2008 at 7:28 PM

Hang in there Emjay!  If anyone can put a stop to this woman and her dd's bullying -it's you.  And you have an army of cafemommers behind you!

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Mar. 15, 2008 at 10:54 PM I am so sorry someone felt the need to try and get back at you by using your kids. That is just horrible, and there is a special place in hell for people like that!

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Mar. 15, 2008 at 11:09 PM Be strong, Emjay.  I am so sorry.

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Mar. 16, 2008 at 4:51 AM

That is so frickin ignorant. I hope they get what's coming to them.

I was investigated when my daughter was 2. (She's 11 now!)  I think that anyone who alleges a child is being abused and is actually lying needs to face charges. There needs to be some accountability.  I have heard so many times about family or friends being investigated because someone just wants to cause trouble and not because they actually think the children are being harmed or neglected. They just did it out of pure spite and that tells me that since they were successful in getting this done that there are some holes in the system.

What about our rights?
What about the kids who TRULY need help but help is not getting to them fast enough because of BS like this?

Makes you wonder...

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Mar. 16, 2008 at 12:21 PM Wow, I'm so sorry that someone would do this to you.  I would never do that to someone, no matter how upset they made me.  Good luck to you, and your family. 

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Mar. 16, 2008 at 12:31 PM It's just wrong and like the lady above me said, they should be held accountable for what they have done and I do hope they get what is coming to them ten fold!!!!!! 

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Jul. 1, 2010 at 8:15 AM

I had a mother who once threw  a keg party for her high school kids.  She told me that such was good parenting so that they would drink  at home and not drive.  She  drunkenly said that the fact that my mother would never do that made her a bad  parent, and that she was going to call CPS and have my younger brother put in foster care, because my mother was supposedly too restrictive with us.  I told her  to go right ahead, and if she did, I would send CPS over to her house for throwing underage keg parties, as well as the police (and maybe initiate a possible defamation lawsuit).   She backed down.

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Jul. 26, 2012 at 4:03 AM

I called cps on a mom who constantly would smoke with her kid around her. also in the car with the windows up while the 2yrold is in her seat in the back seat buckled. She prostitues, for money. and has sex in the bed with her child in the bed aswell. the house is in unlivable conditions. NOW they are treatning me with retaliation and im not sure what to do... advice please

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