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So what do YOU think?
- Mar 18, 2008 at 9:58 PM
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I've got a bunch of life quandaries....hook a sista up w/ some opinions:
*SITCH #1 I've been invited to view a friend's wedding website. This is her 2nd wedding (in 5 years). The first one we went all out on, shower and wedding attendance & gift, etc. This one is a destination wedding, StLucia And one of the website pages is a Registry. I'm thinking, this oughta be rich.....and oh BOY is it ever!!! It;s a HONEYMOON REGISTRY== Spa Experience $120, Dinner at this restaurant $60, Gratuities while there $20. I kid you not. I'm thinking WHAT THE EFF???
*SITCH #2 DH and I are really doing well on our new fitness track. I am counting calories and carbs and treadmilling 3x a week, he is on the treadmill nightly. We've never been this focused together. We're also scraping pennies together to gut and re-do our kitchen, to the point where I am even going to teach summer school to make some extra cheese. So, what is DH's big quandary right now??? How WE'RE going to buy this Bowflex!!!!! I kid you NOT AGAIN....the man seriosuly said to me via cellphone today (smartly out of arms reach) I can't decide what to do about this Bowflex. I was stunned into silence.....thinking it better than saying ARE YOU FUCKING KIDDING ME YOU MORONIC SELFISH IDIOTIC JERK????
I could go on but these two have a LOT of pondering for you all to get back to me on...so TALK AMONGST YOURSELVES and let me know your .02!!!!
Tags: bowflex, budget, dumb but not stupid husbands, etiquette, family, friends, honeymoon, husband, idiot, life, money, registry, weddings
Comments:
Tell your friend to check out your second honeymoon page. Maybe she will buy you a $120 spa something! My goodness that seem s bit much, especially if your guest are having to pay to just attend your wedding. Shouldn't it have a no gifts please sign instead!
And Boys I tell you! We just bought a brand new house, which we can just squeak by with. List nigh my hubby asked when we were going to buy a new plasma TV to hang on our mantle! Men just can't think around real life I don't think!
men are cut from the same cloth... they just don't THINK!!
I totally agree with ohwrite. Say it as casually as it is written, don't get emotional about it. It's just verbal diahrreah, a.k.a. "man disease."
kudos for sticking to the health plan together!! That's pretty awesome
I may be in the minority, but I have never understood the acceptance of the gift registry. It's a blatant solicitation for gifts -- whether you're registering for a blender or a trip to St.Lucia, the concept is the same. Forgive me if any one reading this has registered for gifts. But when DH and I got married, I refused to do a registry, basically because I felt that anyone that we would be inviting to our wedding would know us well enough that we would have to tell them what to buy for us. And you know what? We didn't have to take a single thing back. Everything was perfect -- and unsolicited. Get her a McDonald's hamburger coupon and call it good.
As for dilemma #2, I feel your pain. When we got our tax return this year, my DH had a laundry list of ways he wanted to spend the money. None of which were items that the entire family could enjoy, but rather very specific items for him. Now, mind you, last year I (foolishly) let him run wild with the tax return and he went buck wild at the rafting store in town, buying a brand new cataraft, plus every bell and whistle that the salespeople suckered him into buying. He spent the entire return, and then some. I've been on the cataraft twice, and have oared for about 30 seconds before he (the world's worst back-seat driver) drove me so insane I finally gave up. So, yes, it's nice that your hubby wants to get in shape, but shape up the kitchen first -- hell, if he does a little of the heavy lifting himself, he'll get a workout and save some money at the same time!
# 1 that's hideous.
# 2 that's hideous, lol but i gotta give the man props for saying it on the phone. he was either clueless when he said it, or he is just an absolute genius, rofl.
Ummm first one....I only buy a gift once...so you get married and have one shower...I will buy additional children gifts if I chose to. I do not do gift registry's I think they are selfish and if you tell me there is one you will most likely get a card or really shitty gift. I do not like being told what to get someone or what to do so.
sencond on I would remind him that I am losing time with my children to make extra money for our house (AN INVESTMENT) and that the Bowflex is not in the budget and to look for one of the million used ones that no one uses anymore! I would not be nice in either case....but that is just.
jess- we have the same life i think...........
1. i have a friend who married "steve". divorced after one yr. then, they married again (same people)!! then-guess what??? divorced again. so these 2 have been married and divorced twice! i hear you on the gifts. i think i would skip the gift this time around. who cares what she thinks. maybe buy her a nice $50 gift card to target. crazy. just crazy and so greedy the other way!!!
2. think yourself lucky with the bow flex. my DH wants to add a basketball court to our backyard!!! it's not that big by the way!!!!!!!!!
Um, #1 what they heck. I had read baout honeymoon registries and it sounded SO tacky to me! I DID register when we got married. Most gave us money since we were building a house (i expected nothing of course) but since I had been on my own already, there were a lot of things we already had. Not to mention that it is nice to receive something you like...my & dh's tastes are notoriusly different than others. Despite the registries, we still received hideous crystal candy dishes, 2 more sets of silverware (we didn't register for it cause we already had it LOL). Of course, we wrote very gracious thank you notes!
As a guest, I appreciate a registry also, it's true that I usually know the people well enough to buy a gift, but I don't know what color heets they like, what their bathroom theme is, what kitchen gadgets they already have and so forth!
#2, men are asses, but we all already know that!
Ok, think I have it figured out.
Email your friend back and tell her to check out your new registry as well. On your new registry should be a bowflex, kitchen appliances, your countertops, gift cards to Lowes, etc. he he
Seriously, If I were in your shoes, I would tell your DH that if he is going to purchase a bowflex, you are not going to work the summer school.
I hope he wises up and realizes he isn't being fair.
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