Living through motherhood!

[CelticMom]

Hello All,

I found CafeMom from MySpace...it's attractive that they both work similarly.

It was hard enough figuring out MySpace as an old broad...but I did it, for my kids!!!  Imagine their surprise when I told them I HAD A MYSPACE...they're good kids, so it wasn't as hysterical as it could have been.  But what an amazing world we live in...being able to keep up with not only your kids, but their friends as well.  It's brought us to a place that is very comfortable and the communication lines are even wider than they used to be, and that's saying something.  With teenagers...that is the most important part of my job, listening, and being there...and of course, feeling sorry for myself when they choose NOT to come to me.

This part of the motherhood journey is fascinating to me.  I've raised two delightful and responsible human beings from birth.  My husband and I have even prepared for "this time" in our lives....A couple of years ago we started taking a week in January just for us.  It was then that we started talking in ernest about our children leaving...with each discussion things became easier...just thinking about it was easier.  Well, the time has come for our first one...it's not easy.

Our second child "Gock" is graduating from High School in May and that will leave us "Empty Nesters" officially.  I never anticipated what a definite change this is in our lives.  Everything changes!!!  Come the end of summer, John and I can run around the house without clothes on if we choose!  IMAGINE!!!!!

So in closing, I'd like to say:  For any other Empty Nesters out there...here I am!  It's a whole new world out there for us.  Oh sure, the kids are still there, the responsibilities are still there, the "Bank o' Mom and Dad" is still open, but it's just "US" now and that's scary and exciting all at the same time.

Keep the faith everyone!  We have the MOST IMPORTANT JOB in the entire universe....We are MOTHERS!

Sincerely,  CelticMom

[mommie_dearest3]

Mar. 23, 2007 at 8:38 AM

Hi! I just joined this site, and am also an "old broad" trying to figure it out. You know how challenging that can be for those of us who grew up in an era where we thought  electric typewriters were the ultimate! I made it through the "empty nest syndrome" about 5 years ago, and I love it! I even went back to school and got my bachelor's degree! Anyway, I would like to be your friend (if I can figure out how this site works).

[ddmarkin]

Mar. 29, 2007 at 10:12 AM

Hi!  I recently joined Cafemom and am also an "old broad".  I'll be honest . . . I'm not sure how this whole thing works. 

I am a working mom of an 18 year old daughter.  She is commuting to college, so she still lives at home.  At least I think so, I rarely see her she is so busy with school and work and her friends.  My husband and I are beginning to experience the "empty nest" and I'm not sure I like it.  I'm bored and it's tooooo quiet.  Wait, I"ll take that back.  We have two Pomeranians (Chewy is 2 and Scruffy is 7 months old) so it isn't really that quiet.  They like to bark!

I like to read, sing in the choir and church and I was born with Spina Bifida so I use a wheelchair.  I am currently on a committee at my church that is planning a Goodbye party as the Elementary School is closing after 50 years.  My sisters and I went there and my daughter was raised their also.  It is so sad to see it close, but hopefully we can give it the tribute it deserves in June.

Well, my break is just about over so I better get back to work.  Hope to talk to you soon!

[jejstover]

Apr. 3, 2007 at 8:32 AM

I feel the same way about having the most important job in the universe ... Mothering my 2 sons (now grown) has been a wonderful part of my life.  Both boys are away at college now - my oldest son is majoring in architecture and my youngest is in engineering.  The colleges they have chosen to attend are close enough that we still see them fairly regularly and with cell phones, emails and IM we talked almost daily.

They both want to live in warmer climates after graduation and so I know a move to the west cost in probably in each of their futures, which means we'll probably not be lucky enough to keep them as close as we would like ... guess that just means my husband and I will be doing a lot more driving and flying in years to come :-)

Anyway, when the boys moved out, I was still pretty busy helping my mom - who just recently passed away - and in many ways I am just now starting to get a taste of the freedom (and sometimes emptiness) of the empty nest.