What happend to love and marriage?

[DomsMamom]

Just call me an old fashioned girl.  I was raised you date, become engaged, get married  and then you have children. It bothers me to see so many women try to have kids with their boyfriends or purposely have unprotected sex in hopes to get pregnant.  They live with their parents because they can't afford to live on their own when they have a baby.  Kids are a commitment more so than marriage because they depend on you to provide for them.  If you can't provide for yourself why bring a child into this world.  Yes, some happen on accident and you have to adjust and do what you need to do.  I don't get it.  SORRY!

[bluesmomNC]

Mar. 28, 2008 at 12:23 PM

Unfortunately, life doesn't always happen this way.  I am 36 and I have a 5 year old child with my boyfriend. We have been together for almost 7 years.  While we didn't plan on becoming parents, it has really strengthened our relationship.  We both have been married previously and have no desire to marry each other anytime soon.

We have always maintained our own household.  Since we have children from previous marriages, it would be an enormous strain on our families if we were to "move in" with them.  We take care of our own and do just fine.

I understand where you are coming from and you make great points.  There are just times when things happen in life and you just have to do what you can to raise a healthy family.

[charluvsricky]

Apr. 24, 2008 at 12:56 PM i couldnt agree more! But maybe im old fashioned too, cuz i love stayin home with my son where so many folks nowdays dont do that either!