My son and the damn pacifier....

[jusjream]

OH MY GOD!! I am about to pull my hair out. My son has been fighting a nap since 3 pm. It is now 6:55 pm...and I can't take it anymore. I usually lay down with him in the bed, read him a book or two or three...we practice our facial features and usually count our fingers, then he politely rolls over and goes to sleep....WITH THE PACIFIER. So we are obviously trying to get rid of it, and I am about to scream!!! Actually...I did a few times. He kept finding shit in the bed to play with...feathers from our down comforter, etc. So at 6, yes 6:00, I finally put him in the crib, because I wanted to shower and start dinner...yeah...right. He has been crying and screaming on and off since then....screaming BOO-BOO...or whatever it is...thats what he calls his pacifier. I can't take it.....he literally is screaming like someone is hurting him. I don't do the CIO method, but I am not giving in. I keep going in the room, wiping his nose, hugging him, kissing him, laying him down, picking up all the shit he keeps throwing out of his crib, like his pillow and blanket and his teddy bear...then I come back in the living room to do it all over again. He has a clean diaper, I put orajel on his gums because he has been teething for over a month. I don't know what else to do....We are trying to get him off this pacifier before the baby comes, because I don't want him trying to give the baby his pacifier. What can I do...I want to go get in the shower and calm down, but sometimes he cries so hard in 5-10 minutes that he'll throw up....literally in 5-10 minutes! I'm afraid he'll choke....thats the same reason why I won't go sit on the porch for 5 minutes. I just need a minute.....

 

Okay...in the middle of this post, I went and got him and put him back in the bed...changed his diaper again, gave him some water, hugged and kissed him and told him to lay down. now he is trying to play again...i know he is tired, he is exhausted. i know my son...but he just refuses to go without his pacifier...he is now trying to dump the water out of his cup and onto my leg, the computer and the bed...trying to get me to play. Someone please help me...I am going crazy! What do I have to do....I REFUSE to give him the pacifier...I can't do it. HELP!

[ladylake777]

Apr. 1, 2008 at 7:11 PM

I took my son's pacifier away when he was almost 2.  I just kept telling him that "binkie (his word for it) went bye-bye" and he would sob.  He didn't nap well either for about 2 days, but by the 3rd day he was fine.  I kept him really busy doing other stuff and distracting him so he wasn't just being miserable about missing his pacifier.

Stay strong!  It's hurting you much more than it's hurting him!

Penny

[jasonsmommy05]

Apr. 1, 2008 at 7:12 PM How old is he?? My son is just now 2 1/2 and we just got him off of his.  We told him it had 'uckies' on it and had to throw it away.  I have no advice, really, just stick to your guns and don't give in! I know how hard that can be though.

[butterfly2momma]

Apr. 1, 2008 at 7:43 PM I don'tknow if you believe in this, but the book that has the signs in it seemed to have worked for a lot of people I know. I didn't use it when I took either the bottle or the pacy away from Hawk but my mom swears I had to have done it "in the signs" for him to have done so well. Maybe its like the almanac or something I'm really not sure but my mom says she checking when I do it with Noah to make sure!!

[Ms.Browneyes]

Apr. 1, 2008 at 9:57 PM It'll take about a week or so but he'll eventually forget about it. Good luck!

[Vonirae2]

Apr. 1, 2008 at 10:23 PM hang in there Britt.. it seems horrible right now but it gets better each day. We went cold turkey on Alanna. It was the longest three days of my life.. after that she just accepted that it went bye bye and that was it.

[sandif]

Apr. 2, 2008 at 9:09 PM

The longer you wait, the harder it will be. I just did a Squidoo lens on toddlers and pacifiers. I can't stand them, (pacifiers, not toddlers)! It is a big pet peeve of mine when I see a toddler walking around with a binkie in their mouth who takes it out to talk then puts it back in - it's a terrible habit. So I made a lens on it, expressing my opinion. I am well pass that stage - my girls are in Jr. High, but I've always hated pacifiers. Please weigh in on my lens on your opinion!

In the meantime, hang in there - you're doing the right thing. Before too long it will just be a bad memory. 

 http://www.squidoo.com/nobinkiesforkidswhowalkandtalk 

[mommyniki]

Apr. 6, 2008 at 12:26 PM Hang in there! I know it's it's tough. You're doing fabulously in my book!

[Hagant]

Apr. 8, 2008 at 2:20 PM

If he is old enough to understand "Big Boy" behavior.  Start by saying  - "Starting tomorrow - No more binky in the house - only in the car or at night - Big Boys don't use binkys". 

Then after a few days - "No more binky in the car - only at night"  - remind him everytime he asks

Then start the count down - in 3 more days NO MORE BINKY - IN 2 more days NO MORE BINKY ETC.  Big Boys do not use binkys

THE BIG DAY ARRIVES "No more binky - "Big Boys" do not have them at all"  Have a ceremony - Have him gather them all - car, bed, house and say goodbye and throw them away.

Then celebrate - have a no binky party - get pizza or his favorite food and the whole family has a good time.  He may cry the next few days but if you start doing and announcing Big Boy stuff - brushing teeth alone, using sippy cups - larger forks or spoons etc he will get over it

 Good Luck

[justjen212]

May. 29, 2008 at 7:01 PM I appreaciate the comments, I REALLY DO, But is there anyone out there that has some suggestions on how to actually get rid of this "BINKY". I t has gotten SOOOOOOOO BAD now that he has to have certain one's and he HAS  to have at LEAST 2 to go to sleep now!! And he does NOT GIVE UP!!!!!! I haven't really tried to get him to stop it yet, but i know that the time is coming SOON! And, Thanks to his Daddy, he won't go to sleep in his Bg Boy bed, he HAS to have his Daddy laying with him in our bed, which leads to me falling asleep on the couch -LIKE EVERY NIGHT!!!  I would like to be the one who my man cuddles with again! Let's just put it this way, I AM TIRED!!  And MAMA needs to feel like a woman again! As you can tell, I am very frustrated with this whole situation AAAAAEEEWAEWEWEAEWEWEWEAEWEWEWAAAAAAA!! Thank you to ANYBODY who has ANY help on any of the situations that I just went on about!!