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[lilbit4]

My daughters biological father hasn't been a part of her life since she was 2. She is now 6. Me and my husband have been together since she was 18 months old, So he is the only "dad" she knows. She knows he is not her real dad, but she started calling him dad, on her own, about a year ago. So any way, Last week her biological dad found my profile on myspace. He sent me a message and told me he has been looking for me for years and he wants to see Ali. Well he must not be looking to hard because I live in the same house I lived in the very last time I heard from him and I have the same phone number. I wrote him back and told him he could see her that I had filed the papers to have his rights taken away. He has since wrote me every day begging to see her. It is really starting to get on my nerves. I don't feel it is a good idea for him to come back into her life. He is a bad drunk that can not hold a job. when he used to see her he would pick her up one weekend and not show up again for 6 months.  He has never paid a dime in support. Ali has adjusted quite well since he has been permanently gone and I fear if I allow him back into her life he will see her a couple of times and disappear again. I don't want to keep her from her dad but at the same time I don't want to see her get hurt again. She isn't 2 anymore this time would effect her a lot more.

[tracylynnr67]

Apr. 5, 2008 at 3:26 PM Have the papers gone thru as far as his rights go or does he still have rights at the moment? If he doesn't then I would tell him that for her sake it's best for her to not have her life disrupted. If he does still have rights....not sure how to handle it then. ((((HUGS)))))

[lilbit4]

Apr. 5, 2008 at 3:38 PM as of right now he still has rights(I'm waiting on a court date), but I have sole custody, I am not letting him anywhere near her.

(Original Poster)

[vanrens]

Apr. 5, 2008 at 4:16 PM Wow... thats a tough.  Maybe he's changed for the better.  Maybe get to know him again and see if he has.... wow.  Thats all I got for ya right now mama..