I didn't "GIVE" him away.....

[AzureLynn]

Many of you whom have read my journal entries note that I have one son that does not live with me. He is seven and living with my sister. She has adopted him. This is not something we did lightly. We, meaning myself - my husband - my sister - and her husband discussed this many many times. Before she married her and I had talked about her taking him on full time more than once. And after she married it was nearly a year before this finally came to pass. We talked for over 2 years before finally deciding to see how my 7 yo would fair.

My sister has not been able to carry to term a child, and due to her medical history her doctors have all asked her not to try anymore. And not because I feel "sorry" for her did I do this. She's an excellent mom and aunt and person. I did it because I love both her and my son very much and wanted to give them both a special gift. I know I made the right choice. 

Now, he's made student of the week. Been pictured in the local newspaper and is an active member of the community with "mom and dad". He's making excellent grades in school and when I talk to him I can tell he's feeling and doing great.

Do I miss him? You can bet I do, as do his brothers and my husband. We get to talk to him on a regular basis and my sister sends me updates on him all the time. And it's not the same not having him here, and based on how he's doing there he will be staying. 

 

Do not judge me because I placed my baby in another person's home until you understand everything about my family and hers.

 

Many blessings! 

[strongmom40]

Apr. 6, 2008 at 12:44 PM The greatest gift you can give is selflessness. I don't judge you. Sounds like you made a VERY hard decision & choose the best for ALL involved BEFORE yourself !! Kudos to you Kidd !!!

[tiffanismommica]

Apr. 6, 2008 at 12:46 PM So basically you could say you were sort of like a surrogate for someone who could not have children.....Good For you for loving your sister enough to do this. Don't worry about the haters hun!

[carrie1026]

Apr. 6, 2008 at 12:46 PM I say kudos to you and your sister.  I don't know the whole story but it sounds to me you did the and made the best desicion you could and all is well because of the sacrifice and gift you gave.  I only wish I had the courage you obviously do!!  Bless you and your family!!

[dana_08]

Apr. 6, 2008 at 12:47 PM That takes curage. I could never do that. You are brave to do something like that.  Good luck.

[AzureLynn]

Apr. 7, 2008 at 12:21 AM It took courage and a great deal of love, trust, and understanding. Thank you for the positive feedback to those of you whom have responded.

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