Why do I feel so jealous? (sorry maybe little long)

[goingnuts41]

I have a friend over the past 2yrs we have become best friends.We met through a mutral friend and found out we had a lot in commen including haveing gone to the same school.At first we talked every now and then,but over the years it became everyday that we would either talk or see each other.This is a male friend by the way.Yes I'm married,he's been divorced for over 12yrs, and yes hubby knows we talk. We got so we tell each other everything and he's the first one I call if something is wrong.

So here's my problem.He resently reconnected with his old girlfriend from high school.They have know each other since 9th gr.He hasn't talked to her in 20yrs.She is resently divorced and was looking for him.So he's gone to see her a couple times.She lives 2hrs away,he lives around the corner from me.So ok no problem there.She had some surgery last week and had some problems so that's why he went.

So now we were going to get together on monday but he was busy and we never did.So tuesday morning I sent him a message that said now he had to make it up to me.He sends one back saying sorry can't headed out of town.Guess to where? Not for the day for the rest of the week!! No goodbye nothing no reason for going.Just a will be back sat talk to you on monday!

Now he just lost his job and last time he was there was offered one.So now I'm wondering if he's not concidering moving in with her.So why do I feel so jealous that he's spending time with her? I shouldn't but I feel like we'er back in school and I want to scream and tell her to leave him alone.I'm afraid when he comes back that that's what he's going to say he's moving.So why should that matter we can still be friends,but is he going to spend 2hrs to drive this way to see me? I just keep kicking myself for feeling this way! Hubby just asks why I care so much what he does.He doesn't understand that this is the only friend I have and I tell him everything and have cried on his shoulder many times.He's got me through some rough times.I just don't think I could stand it if he moved.

So do I even have a reason to be jealous or am I'm I being some what possesive?

Thanks for letting me vent. 

[Adnil]

Apr. 9, 2008 at 9:26 PM My friend, if you really care for him and he is happy..be happy for him. He needs you to understand and just be there for him and know that you have his support..don't let your feelings get carried away and lose your friend in the long run..He is a grown man and he doesn't need to check in with you..Sorry..You need to try and reconnect with your hubby...start seeing your hubby as when you first met him...and really try to understand how he must be feeling..How would you feel if it was the other way round?  Just ask yourself alot of these questions..This guy is your friend and if you want to keep him as such, you need to give him space and let him come to you..don't scare him away...I have been through somewhat of the same thing..and I don't even talk to that person anymore...Just keep a level head, and a caring heart.

[timsgurl]

Apr. 10, 2008 at 10:32 PM I understand where you are coming from.  You are concerned for him since they only just hooked up again.  Maybe when he comes back into town you can sit down with him and express your concerns.  And maybe he can help you understand what is going on.  And if he feels it is best.  Wish him luck and let him go.