Okay, So My Son Is Mad At Me..Part 2

[willow]

Ya know, I wonder sometimes why kids always think that the grass is greener somewhere else? My darling son and I finally had a chance to have a conversation, well sort of, today. He stayed at the GF's house until last night. This morning, I was busy with Jacob and the phone started ringing. I figured the machine would pick it up and if it was important they would leave a message. Jimmy comes bounding out of his bedroom stating, "Can't you even answer that?" I did not like the tone of his voice at all! My answer to him was "why don't you?' It turned out to be his GF. She calls about 10 times per day...I swear in between every class at school. It does get to be a nuisance. I guess I don't remember all about the teen love thing, of course we didn't have cell phones.

 After his conversation, I figured it was time for a talk. I told him I was hurt that the only time he thought to call me was when he wanted something. I know this is a kid thing, but at 18 1/2 he should know better. I have tried to raise my kids to believe that family is the most important thing in the world. Somewhere in their teen years, I know they forget this and I try not to take it to heart. But, when he suddenly decided to get mad at me for things that were beyond my control, that's when I lost it. I have had the feeling that he thinks his GF's family is better than ours. After all they have "only" two kids and Mom and Dad both work and they probably have more money than me. I proceded to tell him that I knew he was not happy about the GF not being able to stay for the night, but I was not changing my mind. I then told him if he didn't like the rules of the house, he didn't have to stay. He prompt answer was, "maybe I won't!" My reply "Well, I'm sure you can go to Lissy's, after all they are so much better!" His answer - "Ya, they are!" His next reply - "You wouldn't even care!" My reply - "Jimmy, I care more than you'll ever know!" With that I ended the conversation by walking away. This is so not Jimmy. I always called him the best boy in the world because he was always such a good kid and never gave me any problems. He is home here tonight, but we're not speaking. I really feel he owes me an apology and we'll see how long it takes him to give it to me. It should be interesting!  Ahhh, the joys of motherhood!!

[vivalamanda0883]

Mar. 20, 2007 at 7:22 AM

Uh, want me to smack him around for you, Mum?  I'll straighten him right out.

 ~Manda

[mommy_graves]

Mar. 20, 2007 at 7:30 AM willow u know he loves u .i can rember when i told my mom the only person loves me was curtis my huaband.but u need to let jimmy know that his gfs faily will not always be around i know i had to larn that the hard way

[mamadragon]

Mar. 20, 2007 at 8:40 AM

Ah, brings me back to being a teenager. I am so totally screwed with the Karmic payback thing when my kids are older.

Seriously, I am sure he will realize how stupid he is being. You're an awesome mom. 

[2old4this]

Mar. 20, 2007 at 12:48 PM Willow......I also remember when my Tim was like this!  The drama that went on in this house was practically unreal.  I was to the point.... either he was leaving or I was.  He did move out cause I was the bad parent, (my destiny) and moved in with gf.  Took him about a month to call but I let him make the first move.  It killed me to sit by and count the days.  I figured the first time would be cause he needed something but no, he called just to say he missed talking to me and that he loved me.  It was the second call a couple of days later that he needed something!  Haha.......sons!  You never know if you would rather hug 'em or beat 'em!  As you say, "the joys of motherhood"!

[willow]

Mar. 21, 2007 at 8:25 AM Well, right now he's just not talking to me...so, Mandi, feel free to smack him...lol..! Thanks girls for your comments!!!

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[NenaLindapr]

Sep. 7, 2007 at 9:41 AM

have you even talked to his girlfriend's parents? It's so the "mom" thing to do, probably make him "hate" you even more, but then again, what doesn't cause a teenager to dislike their mother more now-a-days?! lol...

I dunno'... I'm 25 and married and I still have these squabbles with my mom from time to time. I just hate the whole "trying to control me feeling". I mean, it's different for me now because I'm married and with husband / kids, but still, the feeling's the same.

He obviously can't do what he wants to do "just because", but he's seeing life as it is for a different family structure and we can tell he thinks it's better. I used to do that sometimes too! I didn't realize then that my mother being a little bit more strict with me than other parents was actually a good thing! My best friend was pregnant at 18 and not married, while I got married at 21 and had babies at like 23! lol...

If he's getting that upset about her not being able to stay in his room with him... then something's up! I don't care which way you look around it... being that close together in the same bed will obviously lead to other things! lol