I think it is hard for some kids to learn "do as i say not as i do"

duckey060504 Apr. 12, 2008 at 11:26 PM

I agree with you.....I go through this same thing with my husband. You can't eat a cookie in front of a toddler and expect them to just to watch. She is not old enough yet to understand. She cannot comprehend that mommy and daddy get to eat a cookie cause they are adults and I am a baby. She just wants it naturally.

butterfly1201 Apr. 12, 2008 at 11:27 PM

Ed and I go around and around about this same thing.  Bitch slap his ass lol

belladonna777 Apr. 12, 2008 at 11:29 PM

I think she's too young to understand that grown ups can do things children can't. Plus at her age (my daughter is only two months older so I know lol) the smallest things can be a battle, and this just isn't something worth fighting over, espeically not before you're getting her quieted down for bed. We always wait to have treats until our daughter is in bed, unless she's eating them as well.

Leslie120 Apr. 12, 2008 at 11:30 PM

She's just a tiny baby! My daughter's the same age and no way would I try to teach her that kind of lesson right now. It's hard enough to try to keep the equilibrium without promoting situations where there will be obvious struggles. That's just where I'm at though because I can't deal with any more whining or fits from my toddler, hehe... No I definitely agree with you and I don't see it as treating her as an equal, I see it as avoiding unnecessary conflict. He can wait a little while, HE's the adult so he should have restraint, right?

lachryma Apr. 12, 2008 at 11:31 PM

I picked none of the above because you are both kind of right.

JillianSkyeP Apr. 12, 2008 at 11:32 PM

LOL, lachryma worded what I was trying to say a lot better than I did. It's completely unneccessary conflict.

Leslie120 Apr. 12, 2008 at 11:33 PM

I think there are certain things that can be only for adults, (swearing, driving cars, etc.) but eating sweets in front of her is just torture!  Poor baby.  Also at her age, she is not going to be able to understand the concept of no sweets at bed time.  It's just confusing to her I'm sure.  I know my kids would be devastated and they're older than she is.  They wouldn't be able to understand either.  Tell him he should be leading by example. 

I hate it when I have these type of fights with my SO!  They're such a pain in the ass aren't they? 

genxmomma Apr. 12, 2008 at 11:35 PM

My son is 23 months old.  He doesn't get a night time snack, except special occasions.  We just wait till after he is in bed and that is around 8:30pm so its not that hard to wait.  Can't dad go into another room?  I would send his ass into the bedroom or something :)

taradonofrio Apr. 12, 2008 at 11:36 PM

At that age, my daughter loved american cheese.  I couldn't even speak the word "cheese" in front of her, unless I was about to give her some.  Otherwise, there would be a meltdown!  Her daddy is assuming way more cognitive and emotional development than a child has at her age.  She can't learn anything from this situation other than, "daddy doesn't give me the thing I want.  I am sad."

yarnjunkie Apr. 12, 2008 at 11:41 PM