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Update on the boy...

April 15, 2008 at 8:06 AM by krisr169
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Well, he's been hospitalized. The shrink he saw here in town thinks he needs more intensive medication monitoring than he can get in outpatient treatment so there it is.

I don't know why this is giving me such a hard time, mentally. We've almost lost him twice but this is somehow worse. I think it's because I'm NOT calling the relatives, at least my hubby's side. I'll call my mom on Friday when I have a better idea when he'll get out and what his diagnosis and treatment is going to be.

I've been struggling with mental health issues for almost 10 years and I can take the heat, I just don't want that for my baby. Everyone will treat him differently, at school, the family. I think I'll tell them later, after they've spent some time with him and can't tell anything is different. If I call them now and tell them all the stuff he's told me in the last month their relationships will never be the same. I'm not selling them short or anything like that, I went through the same thing with them last year after I was hospitalized.

Thanks for all the support thus far peeps, it means more than you can ever know. This is easily the hardest thing we've ever had to go through and I have to wonder if he's going to have to deal with this forever, you know? I'll just keep the tough act up, kick ass and cry later, right? :)

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Make sure you do get that time to cry later. You are going through a lot. But I am impressed at your spirit!

BrenanMommy Apr. 15, 2008 at 8:20 AM

I'm sorry to hear all your troubles - keep your chin up - I know it's hard. Wish I could offer something more uplifting! But I hear you. Take care! Tori

TortisShell Apr. 15, 2008 at 8:21 AM

An update already! The doc from the hospital called, he's lovely. Let me talk to the boy and everything, snif. He's recommending the medication I thought would work too, I love being right, hahaha. Now, if I could just write prescriptions I'd be ok :)

krisr169 Apr. 15, 2008 at 8:51 AM

I feel ya, friend. I went through this with my teenage boy a little over a year ago. I had to put him in a hospital for 9 days because he was chasing me around the table with a knife. While it was a relief to feel safe, it was probably one of the hardest things I've ever had to do. I saw the fear in his face when I had to turn and walk away and leave him there, and I was reminded that under that scary exterior was still a scared little boy. It was SOOO hard :( We are still working on getting his meds straight, because we're still having some lingering issues. I also hear ya on the whole thing about being treated differently. People hear the words "mentally ill" and automatically equate it with "crazy." They don't realize that under the "crazy" there's still an intelligent human being that thinks, feels, and actually has something to offer. I wish people would take the time to better educate themselves on the subject and be a little more understanding :( I've been subject to stereotyping and harsh judgment from people like that. It hurts.

I hope that he gets what he needs :) I know this is rough, but I also know you're a trooper, and you'll pull through. I'm rooting for you both!

Take care, friend. It'll get better ;-)

heyiheardthat Apr. 15, 2008 at 9:15 AM

Im so sorry youre going through this...Take things one day at a time, hes going to need you to be strong for him.show him that he can live a fairly normal life with this if he takes charge of it, teach him how, let him know hes no different than anybody else in school with other diseases that they have to handle, youre biggest challenege is building hes self esteem through this so that he doesnt feel like an odd crayon..I wish I had a mom like you when I was diagnosed, maybe my childhood & adulthood would have been different, encourage him to build a tougher skin, to love himself from the inside out, and find a support group for him with kids his age that go through this, so that he knows wich feelings are due to the disease and wich are not...hang in there pal!

Belinda3 Apr. 15, 2008 at 9:31 AM

love you babe, know that we are here for you!

scoobystone1 Apr. 15, 2008 at 9:32 AM

I don't know the whole story - I guess need to read more of your blogs, but I'm glad he's getting better. Be strong!! You are amazing!!!

Woozlfreak Apr. 15, 2008 at 9:47 AM

I hate that you all have to go through this. I can't imagine how you are feeling right now, but you have to take comfort in the fact that you are doing what is best for him out of love for him. It isn't as though you just threw him into a hospital so that you wouldn't have to deal with his problems. He is in good hands with doctors who are going to make sure he's well-cared for and safe. You WILL get through this, and so will he. We've all got your back here! Big hugs to you, girlfriend. Stay strong!

jsnzmom Apr. 15, 2008 at 10:35 AM