It was 6 months yesterday that i miscarried.
- April 15, 2008 at 8:28 AM by rebecca2009
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It was 6 months yesterday that i miscarried. It was really hard for me yesterday. I think that it hit me the hardest this month because i would have been giving birth this month. Everyone says it will get easier with time. I sure hope so. I hate the feeling of wanting to cry all the time around the 14th of every month. My fiance and i want to have a family but i am just scared of being told by the doctor when i do get checked out that i will not able ot carry the full term. I mean even if i am able to do that.
I will go on complete bed rest if i have to do that. Everyone says that i shouldn't blame myself for what happened in oct 2007, but part of me still does blame myself for it,what if i had done something differently, what if i had rested more.
- Written by rebecca2009 on April 15, 2008 at 8:28 AM
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I am so sorry. I didn't even realize you were going through this. I have been out of touch with cafemom for a while now. I am trying to catch up on everything. As you probably know we lost a baby due to an ectopic pregnancy last aug. It was extremely hard thing to deal with, especially when people act like it wasn't a baby! We were blessed to get pregnant again. You have given me encouragement as well as remind me of how blessed I am. I have been on bed rest for the last 5 weeks. I get depressed because I am the get up and go type of person and laying around goes against my nature. You said it right, I would do anthing including be on bed rest most of my pregnancy if it means I can have a healthy baby. My husbands co-worker asked him the other day if my doctor had ever told me that I should not have anymore kids because of my history of preterm labor, WHAT? Just because I have to be bed ridden when I am pregnant doesn't mean we can't have anymore children. I told my husband, does his co-worker know how many women would even wish they could be in our situation? I know my sister would. She is the one that had to do Invetro and got triplets. I will keep you in my prayers. Trust in God and he WILL bless you with the family you dream of. Sometimes it's just not on our schedule but his.
Did you name your baby? This seemed to help us. The girls talk about their sibling that is in heaven. We talk about how we will get to find out if it is a girl or boy. We named our baby Sarah Joel. We figured this would cover either way, boy or girl. When we talk about our newest baby being born, my youngest adds things like "Well if she is alive" my oldest told her that is so rude! I told my oldest that Katy does not understand anything else. All she knows is mommy was pregnant before and her sibling did not come home. She is not trying to be rude. When she said that to me it broke my heart, I never would have thought that she was thinking like that.
Again continued prayers for you. Check in with me every once in a while and let me know how you are doing.
God Bless!
Kathy
i had eight misscarriages and went on to have three beatuiful kids keep trying and have your dr give you progesterone it wil make the baby stay and grow that is what they did to me three times you are in my thoughts and prayers
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It might not have been you at all ... there could be a very good reason why you miscarried.
You shouldn't blame yourself. My cousin lost her baby at 36 weeks. She was asleep for three days after giving birth and knows she can't get pregnant again. If they didnt tell you in the hospital it was something specific, then there is a good chance you can get pregnant again.
Hang in there ...
Connie
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MommyAdvisor Apr. 21, 2008 at 6:30 PM